young mothers?

Question

i had my son when i was 15 and now im turning 17 this year...i was wondering if anyone could relate to me about this like husbands parents because we are kind of living with his parents and his mom butts in alot how could i handle this?

i live in my own house but my husband isnt making enough money so now we eat and do everything BESIDES sleep at his parents house and i love her and all but she just isnt my babys mom i am

I am also very greatful for her being there for me but like when we had his 1 year checkup he had a little runny nose and i called to see if theyd still give him his shots and they said that he would be find then i told her that he would be just fine and he could get his shots she'd brag about how she would never go get her kids shots when they had a runny nose remember ive been doing this for 1 year and i know how my child will react not her it should be only my choice if i want him to go to the doctors or not and by the way he turned out find and hes not sick or anything like every other time

Answer 1

I had my son when I was 17, we lived with his mom and I felt so out of place our only solution was moving out. So we bought a house and went our own path. This may not be possible for you, so I suggest having your husband talk to his mom, if you do it it may not go well. Now if he wont then yes you should talk to her, dont yell or be accusing, just say we appreciate you and everthing you've done so much but I feel I need to start figuring things out on my own and etc.If she gets mad or heated then walk away or things will get complicated. Hope thigns turn out for you,its really hard I know. Im now 22 and I have 2 boys and am still married, but its very stressful, just know it gets easier when they get older.

Ok you have your own place, but you need to find ways to do it on your own, if she's willing to babysit you may need to work. I was lucky enough that my husband had a descent paying job that I could stay home. I didnt want to miss anything, I dint want anyone else raising my kids, not that its wrong , its just how I felt. I worked a couple months here and there when we had things come up and needed the extra cash. Or try to work when your husband gets hpme from work, you guys may not see eachother as much but it'll help you get more independent and maybe get on your feet.

Answer 2

I could relate to you in many ways. BEEN THERE DONE THAT AND NEVER AGAIN!!!!! In-laws are very hard to live with. Especially when you and your hubby are trying to start new lives together. It is a difficult situation. I moved out of my parents house at the age of 15. Became an emancipated minor at the age of 15 took care of my self with a full time job and continued my education through high school and became married and pregnant at 16. Then I had to quit my farm job because of the risk of losing my child if something were to happen to me my employer did not want me to sue them. So I lost my apartment and my boyfriend could not afford the apartment by himself so we moved in with his parents which was hell for me. I hated it. The best thing to do is get out of there! You all really need your own space. The In-laws probably tell you how to raise your child am I right? That is not good how are you going to learn? I'm now 26 and have 3 children of my own and because my husband wanted to live with his mommy and daddy forever which was not for me it caused a lot of arguements between us and now we got divorced! Tell your hubbie that he is not being fair to your relationship together. It will eventually cause a big argument if he loves you he'll save money and get you out of that situation. No one starting a family needs to go through that at all!

Answer 3

properly, I grew to alter right into a parent as a youngster, as quickly as I had my son. Later in existence (13 years later, to be appropriate) we observed 2 babies, so I grew to alter right into a mom returned, at an older age. in accordance to my reports, right this is how I see the experts and cons: youthful mothers have extra potential (this would be a extensive-unfold one), additionally, i can connect with my teenage son ok because of the fact we've not got 20-30 years of generational difference between us. matters that are correct to youth now, have been additionally correct whilst i became a youngster. youthful mothers won't be financially look after. this does not influence parental love, or the flexibility to be a stable parent, yet arising short on the month-to-month charges finally ends up in somewhat some rigidity. additionally, youthful mothers won't have the emotional adulthood to rather placed a infant's needs in the previous their very own. Older mothers have extra existence journey and (with a bit of luck) the information that is going alongside with that. they are frequently extra financially look after and don't have that added rigidity. besides the undeniable fact that, older mothers have not got that run around all day potential that their youthful opposite numbers do. from time to time a important generational difference can carry approximately communications breakdown if youth evaluate their mothers and dads to be dinosaurs that in basic terms don't understand.

Answer 4

You have to remember this will one day change. Someday you and your family will have your own place and will live by yourselves. Until then you will have to be patient and keep your cool. They are helping you out right now and it is done out of love.
But if the mother-in-law continues to butt in, listen and thank her and then you can either choose to act upon it or do what you want to do. You can tell her "although that's good advice...and then tell her what you are going to do. This can be a difficult time but hang in there, it's only temporary. Good luck.

Answer 5

I had my son when I was 16 I dealt with an overbearing mom-in-law for six years. ultimately we split. i cant say it was her fault , but she was definitely a contributing factor. he had issues i couldnt live with anymore. you have to just tell her that these are your mistakes to make and you appreciate her advice but thats all it is. shes not the decision maker. having other people in the middle of your relationship will not turn out well in the end. nip it in the bud now.

Answer 6

The best way to handle this is to take in all the advice and tips his mom has to give. Remember, you are still a child yourself and his mom is only trying to teach you because she is more experienced than you. Just take the advice and be grateful that someone is supporting you at this time.

Answer 7

You can't because you're living in her house. She should the the authority to control! You have to wait until you're 18, so you can live in your own place!

Answer 8

Take it easy, u need more support from de parents.