She was all league last year. We fear that she will regret this decision in the future...She has recently met and started dating a nice guy...we just think that she needs to be involved with extra activities after school...and, not have a lot of time on her hands! She says that we always pressured her to play (but, admits that she has fun playing for her club team and enjoys the camraderie with the girls). We don't want to force her to play...but, like most 16 year olds, she can't seem to focus on the future consequences of her actions. Thoughts?
2006-10-06 18:25:40 · 11 answers · asked by grognd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have four children ages 20 through 33. We did all of the sports, cheerleading and extracuricular stuff witht he kids. We discovered that if, after they tried something out for at least a year and didn't wish to pursue it then that was that. The children could not dump something in mid stream and let their team mates down. All of the kids have now left the nest, and have finished or are finishing college. I would recommend that if your daughter does not do basketball, tell her that is fine but she will have to replace it with some other worthwhile activity whether it is school related or some civic activity.
2006-10-06 18:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Royallady1947 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A regret like quiting the team may help her stick with things in the future. It needs to be her decision to make. She will only learn that her actions have consequences, if her actions have consequences. Don't coddle her too much. As far as this new guy is concerned, whatever they plan on doing, they will find a way to do, no matter how busy the schedule is. So if there is a concern with him, you need to talk to her, and possibly him, so that they know what behavior you expect of them. If you want your daughter to have extra activities, tell her that she has to do something even if it isn't basketball.
2006-10-06 18:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I USE TO PLAY SOFT BALL EVERY 1 THOUGHT I WAS SO GOOD I ALWAYS MADE IT ON THE ALLSTARS EVERY YEAR BUT ONCE U GET TO HIGH SKOOL U DONT WANNA PLAY ANY MORE WHY BECAUSE SPORTS ARE JUST NOT KOOL FOR GURL THATS WHY I QUIT!BUT I REGRET IT CAUSE THE GURLS AT MY SKOOL THAT PLAY SOFTBALL HAVE ALOT OF FUN THEY ALWAY GET TO MISS SKOOL ALOT OF THEM WILL BE GOING TO PLAY IN COLLAGE AND PLUS LAST YEAR THEY MADE IT TO FIRST TEAM ALL AMERICAN!I WAS SO JELOUS SO I AM A SOFMORE NOW I HOPE TO PLAY SOFTBALL NEXT YEAR!I WANT TO PLAY IN COLLAGE THATS WHY I WANT TO PLAY FOR U of A IN ARIZONA!
BUT YEAH U SHOULD TELL YOU DAUGHTER NOT TO GIVE IT UP LATER IN LIFE IM SURE SHE WILL REGRET IT MAYBE 1 DAY SHE COULD BECOME A PROFESSINAL.BUT ANY WAYS HOPE I HELP *PEACE OUT!*
2006-10-06 18:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is difficult. if your daughter shows promise and has a shot at a scholarship, i'd suggest you try really hard to convince her what she'd be giving up. if she just needs a break and wants to have more free time and a scholarship is not at stake, maybe you should just honor her choice. at 16, she should have a grasp of the consequences to actions. good luck.
2006-10-06 18:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Curious in Seattle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children need to learn, if we shelter them from making mistakes then they are likely to have problems deciding for themselves when truely serious decisions need to be made.
She needs to ask herself:
Am I playing or not playing for myself? Am I playing for the parents? or not playing for the boyfriend? Really the decision should be mine. I want to go to college and if I apply myself maybe I can get a scholarship?
2006-10-06 18:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by sselfcoug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well right now i'm a freshman. I wish I was on the team, but I don't think I'm ready. But hopefully when I join my sophomore year I'll be on either the JV or varsity team. Hope your sister's hand gets better!
2016-03-28 00:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, let her quit if she wants.. my parents made me play soccer, and when i started to reallly not want to play, i would do bad things like ditch practice, fake sick, do anything to get me out of going to soccer. i know how u feel though, my parents wanted me to play because it looks good for college and stuff. But i hated soccer SO much, more because my parents made me do it. i also started dating a guy when i wanted to quit soccer. i admit i really just wanted to hang out with him all the time, but my parents also made me get a job. so have your daughter so something else since she doesnt like basketball! :-)
2006-10-06 18:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by MyEyeZHypnoTiZe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is let her do what she wants. Let her make her own mistakes (if it is a mistake) If you make her play she will most likely hold it against you in the future.
2006-10-06 18:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anastacia C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with you 100%....you have got to convince that girl into staying on the team....just tell her that she only has one more year to go after this one.....give her some kind of incentive....something like after she graduates from school you will do something really big for her.....and keep your promise....it will pay off in the end....trust me
2006-10-06 18:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see where there's a future in basketball.
2006-10-06 18:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋