How do i get over this guy. He's all wrong for me but I love him sooo much. I want to get over him but it's hard. I had never felt so connected to a person, but we broke up cause he can't commit to anything and doesn't want a long term relationship?
2006-10-06 18:21:25 · 23 answers · asked by qasbirdwing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they are quite wrong do not move on right away. take some time for yourself. Mourn your last relationship if you need to. Discover why you ended and if it was meant to be. It is often said that it should take you as long as you were in a relationship to get over the relationship. While you may even get over the relationship you may not ever get over the person. Especially if they meant something to you, they were in your life for a reason. They touched you in one way or another. Be grearful for the good times you had. Cherish them. Then especially do not rebound that doesn't do anything but hurt the rebound person and yourself. Afterwards you will feel as if you betrayed your ex and your relationship. You may even feel dirty. So don't jump into it, take your time, and you'll be ok. good luck
2006-10-06 18:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Margaret g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I was dating a guy who I knew I didn't love. Once things began to go downhill I knew I wanted to break up with him but he broke up with me first. That made me feel really bad and for that reason I wanted him back. All you can do is acknowledge what happened. Don't go on antidepressants or anything because what I have heard is as soon as you come off them you will feel heartbroken and have to deal with the situation. Just ignore him and don't make any communication with him, even if he calls you. It will take at least 3+/- months to mend a broken heart depending on how long you were together, how deeply in love you were and more. If you are ever up late at night and think maybe I should go back to him because I won't meet someone better. Don't do it. Honestly, he is a waste of your time and you WILL find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Just hang in there. It will probably take a while to meet your best possible mate but I highly recommend waiting for someone better and succumbing to the temptation of falling back into his arms. Good Luck and Take Care.
2006-10-07 01:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by coolchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men in general have more complications on committing because they have their friends, work their ball games, and when they commit, they feel pressured that they have to give up a part of their daily lives, to fulfill some of your needs or wants, also they feel obligated in a certain manner (guys start out in general in love with who you are to begin with but in time women change and somehow everything gets confusing) after all in the beginning you were more like a friend, now you might be preventing him from doing the big game,,..... I'm not sure of this and I'm stipulating on occurrences of the past.. i do hope this helped you. oh by the way guys like to do new stuff like if you always go out for pizza, go out for pasta another night, or a movie one night and skating the next live it up you only have one life to live, and if he doesn't enjoy some of the stuff that you enjoy, tell him it's sacrifice. but if he's a jerk............ don't ever look back. so sorry for the journal.
john
2006-10-12 03:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by John K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shoud start dating other guys now... thats the first step... you know clearly that he doesnt want to be with you, so dont hold yourself back for something that is not worth waiting for... However, when you do start dateing again, dont open yourself up to them how you did your ex... If you do, you will fall easily, just to be left with a broken heart again. so date, and date around (without sleeping around), make sure the guys know that its nothing seriuos, so that you dont feel bad, and you two are on the same level. This will open you eyes to so many guys, and help you decide what exactly you want in a guy...
2006-10-07 01:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by melinda g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem about two and a half years ago, i was so crazy about this guy, i told myself we were meant to be, and i would wait forever, then i realized how stupid that was. I started going out with my friends and on dates, turned off the sappy music, and stopped doing all the things that reminded me of him. After I done all that it didn't take to long to get over the jerk anyways. Life goes on.
2006-10-07 01:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy. You made the right decision. I would destroy anything that would tempt you to call him or try to contact him. One day in time, you will find yourself married with beautiful kids to the right person and say - WOW! my world certainly has changed. You'll think of him and know that you made the right choice. You'll have peace about it - but you may never forget it. In hindsight - you think of all of the good times and special things - but if you were with him now - your life could be completely miserable along with feeling used and rejected - reality is rarely the thoughts and memories we capture in our minds eye and hold onto about those broken relationships.
2006-10-07 01:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time, as they say, heals all wounds. It also wounds all "heels." You obviously didn't want the same things. Be glad that he was honest with you about not wanting to commit to a long-term relationship.
2006-10-07 01:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG hun...i definately know where you're coming from. I'm so much in the same situation. See, i know i'm only 17, but i know love when it hits me.
But the guy i'm in love with, he lives a significant distance away from me.
The time we get to spend together is like..none
And i told him how...how i'm just 17, and i've got plans, and i just can't change everything like that...not yet anyways
I'm totally in a depression right now, because i just wasn't ready for that, you know?
But it isn't like some high school bullshit, i really love the guy, not for his looks, or for his money, or anything like i usually fall for.
He just makes me feel like i was everything to him, and in turn it seems like he was everything to me. But i just wan't ready for that.
It's hard you know, because it was like...at times , you just got this feeling...Just thinking about him, thinking about his name,...it just gave you this feeling, like the best feeling i know at least I'VE ever had. Just like..that i was secure, and i knew there was someone there for me that would give their life just to see me happy.
And i hate it, we just went our separate ways, which has happened before, but never because we stopped loving each other.
So to answer you, the only way to get over him is,..not to talk to him..get rid of the things he's given you, try and move on completely. I know it's gonna hurt, and it's gonna seem like you're giving up on yourself, but that's the only way i know i can get over him, and the same for you.
Honestly, i'm as lost as you are right now it seems. So, this may not make any sense...lol sorry..i just knew i could relate to this question, and i'm glad you asked it.
2006-10-07 01:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by texascg008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lsiten this really is kinda dumb when u want to get over someone so much all u got to do is go to the god damn mall club or hang out wit ur freinds and find some one else dont let this kinda crap let u down if u do then u get more deppresed than before and try doing fun stuff to it helps
2006-10-07 01:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B his frnd.. try xplainin how much u love ovr N ovr.. its hard to give up on a person who we love much.. a remote thought wil bring al those past memories back.. bettr try coz ther is no such thing as readymade
2006-10-07 01:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋