This guy and I dated for some time.. Then it ended.. we stayed friends.. but a couple days ago.. we called each other some mean things.. and ended the friendship.. i was angry.. i didnt mean the stuff i said... it just came out.. without thinking what I was saying... I can honestly say.. i still love him.. do you think time will heal this?... maybe one day.. we can resume our friendship.. maybe even more?? do most people who belong together fight.. stay away from each other for some time.. and then get back together??? please.. help.. anything would be great.. i need some way to deal with this pain I am feeling......
2006-10-06 18:12:53 · 8 answers · asked by an14341991 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow. i have to say that i went through something similar with this one girl... we dated on and off (long distance, ny and ca) but we stayed friends. we sort of parted a few years ago... well, she wanted to "give other guys a chance" and my heart was broken because i was about to propose to her that night (had the ring ready). that was the last we spoke in person. the heart break was immense. honestly, time never really healed my pain... it just dulled it a bit. maybe it will eventually. i consider her my "kindred spirit" and i still do. was it true love? sure it was. it just did not end in a fairy-tale ending. i heard that she got married 2 years after, and i moved on and got married, too. i love my wife, but i still think of her.
every now and then, i will get a call and just hear a song on the other end. it makes me smile now. just be patient. i am.
btw, i returned the ring back to tiffany's, and donated the money to my favorite charity (in her name).
2006-10-06 18:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ sf_ca ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 1st mistake was trying to be friends after the breakup. This only made things worse, it seems like you two have deep feelings for each other. The only thing to do is to tell him how u feel, he probably feels the same way. In the end, its either you get back together as a couple or go your separate ways. You're only making things worse by trying to maintain a friendship.
2006-10-06 18:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by sabrena e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, love is not suppose to make you feel bad. I'm not sure what you fought about but maybe you're both feeling strained with each other's energy. If you love him, think before you say anything hurtful. Time will heal your pain and if he loves you, he will come around. Don't expect to get back together--get out there and breathe. It's not going to be easy.
2006-10-06 18:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by MaTriX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really care for him, you should waste no time and apologize for him. If he cares as much as you do he will accept your apology and if he doesn't right away he will soon, but call before its too late, its whats in your heart. We all do and say things out of character just to hurt that person because we are angry and emotional. When you do finally talk address the situation and see that it doesn't happen again
2006-10-06 18:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes couples fights...
and sometimes married people fights...
but the truth is he will never know unless you tell him, dont go around and think he knows or hell magically come across the answer someday.
you only get one chance at life.. and its so easy to forget that
so go tommorow when you wake up and live your day to its fullest! be happy! and be with him!!!
2006-10-06 18:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could maybe work out.
I've had some pretty bad arguements and fights with friends before, but it's all in the past now.
I think it made us better friends..
I hope it all works out for you.
2006-10-06 18:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
misunderstanding and quarrels are natural things in a relationship...one thing---be ready to say sorry if you think youve hurt him ...and be ready to forgive if he says he's sorry.. its as simple as that....try to reach for him if you need to ...and be honest with yourself..theres a 100% chance you 2 will reconcile soon and be happy again together
2006-10-06 18:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by jadfritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS YOU KNOW THAT EVERYONE GOES THROUGH THIS
IN ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, BUT AS TIME GOES BY, THE
HURT WILL PASS THEN YOU AND HE CAN TALK, IT MAY
JUST TAKE TIME TO HEAL, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH
TIME. SO LET THIING COOL OFF THEN SEE HOW IT GOES
GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-06 18:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋