I am working with a person who is rude and bitter all the time.?

Question

Even her son said that if she didn't try to take a swing at him once a week, then he'll know something is wrong. How can I best work with such a person?

Answer 1

Never let this person make you angry.

Underneath the rudeness, bitterness and provocative behavior, I promise you, there is unresolved grief. You can bet your soul on that.

So you can be dependable, unjudgmental, reliable, and deaf to whatever scenes are created by this person. They don't have the wisdom to resolve their grief, and they do this instead.

I've had to act this way myself. And I can't tell you how happy I am retired and away from the freak show!

Answer 2

Stay clear of her and keep conversation to the bare minimum. People such as this are looking for any opportunity of lash out. It can be a result of past abuse or a total dissatisfaction with there own life. People that are this unhappy generally love to take it out on others because they feel so hopeless and have no idea how to change there own destiny. Like they say misery loves company;.

Answer 3

Nothing worse than having a bitter co-worker to ruin your mood at work and disrupt your day.

I say steer clear of her....if she takes a swing at her SON...can you just imagine?

If the company has a Human Resources department, maybe bring it up to their attention...anonymously....as to spare you the dramas of her finding out. If the company respects their employees, they'll take a look into it and hopefully resolve it to make the workplace a better place to be for 8+ hours a day.


Or, you could try the "nice" approach...and just talk to her...like say hello or hi or how was your weekend....eventually, maybe you'll break her. Maybe somethings going on in her home/personal life that affects her at work. A lot of people bring their home dramas to work. If you can befriend her, maybe eventually you can help her work on this type of attitude.

Good luck

Answer 4

I actually worked with a woman who was just that for 15 years. She was a real drama queen. I'd seen her rip anyone's face off and people backed off. She used to scream at her husband on the phone, really scream so that people coming in the office would be frightened. They'd ask..I'd say, "oh she's just yelling at her husband, she talks to him like that all the time." One day and it was her absolute worst day...she was screaming at her poor old 85 year old widowed father on the phone. I used to get up and go toward her office and just shut her door...you could still hear her behind the closed door too. She hated another gal at the office and beeched about her constantly. I think it was jealousy really. I am sure it ws. She'd take on the CEO if she felt like it. She told me one morning she slept at the office all night b/c she fought with her husband and finally put a gun in his face. The police were called in and she had to leave the houw....he ws too drunk. She's been seeing counselors ever since but it has changed nothing. In my mind I thought she needed support and a friend...so I used to humor her and agree with her. It was I found the only way to go along and get along because there will always be someone in the office that causes anxiety for everyone...and did she ever! Because of this behavior, she did what she wanted and wend and the boss was too chicken to deal with it all.

Answer 5

Tell her you think she is rude, forget the bitter bit, you do not know what is happening in her personal life and why she is so angry. If she is rude to you, tell her you are offended by the way she speaks to you, and if she does not desist, you will have no hesitation in reporting her. If she is rude to others, it is up to them to make a complaint. This is called workplace bullying.

Start keeping a diary and write down dates, times etc that you believe she is rude to you.

Good Luck, do not take sides with the son, you do not know what happens in their home.

Answer 6

Your gonna have to try and ignore it as much as possible. If that isnt possible, take it to the big boss. That is all you can do. I mean at my job, there is people I have never talked to, or even worked with.. they are just there, and theyll mean mug the hell out of me.. I just try and maintain my cool though. Cause no matter where you work, there is a 99.9% chance your gonna work with some assholes lol. good luck.

Answer 7

Aww that's sad..but i know the feeling. Just don't let her get to you...try and turn her negative attitude into a positive one. For example if she says something about being cold and starts to complain, tell her something positive like..well at least you can wear cute sweaters. Bitterness loves company but stay strong and positive. You can always just tell her you don't appreciate her rude comments and she should keep them to herself. Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

Print this whole question and answers section out and make it viewable by THAT rude person. Sometimes reading things about ones self is a real eye opener, yet again some couldn't care less and will laugh it off...BUT HEY !! then you got the sour puss to laugh !!!!

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Answer 9

Why do you have to???? Is she your boss? If not stay away from her... She sounds so unstable and what is you Boss doing about it. Maybe discuss it with the higher ups and see if you can be moved or she can be talk to. You do not need this in your work place. I hope this works out for you because I wouldn't want you to have to quit over some loonie!!!! Speak to HR and maybe they can help you.....Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

Be more kind and patient and loving with her than you have ever been with any person you've ever known. This woman is in terrible pain, or she wouldn't be behaving like this. Maybe at first it won't look like it's making any difference, but you wait and see; love and kindness can have an astonishing affect on the badly hurt.