2006-10-06 17:47:51 · 31 answers · asked by Susan 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't think so. It shows the teen what real life it going to be like the parent sounds like they are teaching their teen a valuable lesson
2006-10-06 17:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but I would suggest they be given a lump sum by their children for gas, utilities and food. If the parents are not earning much or are retired, it is only right for the children to help out with their own expenses. They should make sure to give more than what they use so that they are in fact giving their parents an allowance on top of their expenses. It's a way to show their parents their love.
2006-10-07 12:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends....I notice you said the parent "charges gas money" the parent
may not have the extra money to drive their child back and forth to work??
Part of being a good parent is to teach their children independence and part of becoming independent is to pay your own way. Just think of the time it takes a parent to take & pick up their child from work...after a hard days work
that wouldn't be easy either. Bottom line if the parents weren't around how would the child expect to get back and forth?
2006-10-07 02:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by Barrierbuster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda, it depends on the situation... if they are trying to make a point that they are not a free ride everywhere all the time then yes, i mean gas is expensive but not if they are only charging what it costs to get to and from not as a way of earning anything like a cab.
i would never charge my kids for gas money if they needed a ride unless they were taking advantage of me so they didnt have to spend money... it also depends on the age.
2006-10-07 00:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son got a part-time job at a local grocery store, I didn't charge him gas money, however, as he got older and got another job that was in the next town and he was working more hours and getting a higher rate of pay, I did start charging him a small amount for fuel.
I think that we have to have a balance - your child needs the incentive to work, but also, it should not be costing ME money for him/her to have a job.
As my children got their driving license, I also required them to pay the difference between what my insurance had been before they started to drive, and what it was now they were driving my car. I also requested that they put fuel in when they had used the car.
Teach children the difference between what are RIGHTS and what are PRIVILEGES.
2006-10-07 09:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're over 18, living at home, and not in college I would say it's okay. If they're in high school and working that job to save for college I would say it's a bit unfair. Maybe you could charge them for gas money and then take that money and put it in a savings account to be used in the future for tuition, or last month's rent when they finally move out.
2006-10-10 13:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Peri 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be wrong NOT to take the money. It costs to use a vehicle to go anywhere. There is gas, car maintenance, depreciation, and auto insurance to consider, not to mention the time and effort on the parents part (which should be appreciated, not criticized as they do not owe it to the child to be a taxi). It teaches the child (who would have to be either a teen or grown to work legally) that you have costs involved in working. If the child resents it than that's good, they could use a dose of reality.
2006-10-07 00:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course not! That teaches the child that in life, we all have to pay our own way.
Now if the parent doesn't explain this, the child would think the parent is just taking money. But if its explained that the money is for services rendered (ie driving to/from work), then the child would learn about finances.
2006-10-07 03:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Reuben Shlomo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little harsh, if your still living with them. But if your job is an out of the way drive for them, and with the price of gas, it's not out of the question.
I would, for fairness sake, measure the distance, figure the MPG, and calculate how much gas you use. So you actually pay your fair share. They can't argue with that.
Congradulations on the job.
2006-10-07 01:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by charley128 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, the child should incure the expenses of employment. The parents time is valuable too. However the parent should be using this as a life lesson and not a way to just get money.
2006-10-07 00:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by rjf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong at all! Instead of the bus fair you are keeping the money in the family. Not a bad idea. I'm not sure if I would take the money myself, but I don't think that it is wrong to do.
2006-10-07 02:16:55 · answer #11 · answered by Solomia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋