i am 26 yrs old girl insulin dependent, very pretty,?
problem is that i have one proposal. totally arrange i only saw him once , what should i do. he is 36 yrs old male, and he does not know that i am diabetic?
what would i do?
kindly suggest me
will my family inform his family that i am diabetic or not?
2006-10-06 17:38:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its an purly arrange marriage his mother saw me and then propose me.
i dont know whther how his views?
i dont ever had conversation with him
2006-10-06 17:52:11 · update #1
We both know what you should do. You are 26 years of age. Stand up for yourself. If you don't want to marry this guy (which it seems you don't) then don't! Society isn't the ones that have to live with him for the rest of their lives! They don't have to cook for him or do his laundry for him for the time you guys are together. You don't even know him.
As for him knowing that you are diabetic, I highly suggest you tell him. Him knowing could possibly be vital to your life. Approach him with "We need to talk," or "There's something important that I need you to know." No one should ever look at you differently because of this.
Last but not least - Do what your gut tells you to do. If your womanly instincts are telling you to run from this man, then do it! This decision will change your life forever. If you do decide to go through with it, don't foget to tell him your "secret!" And, try to get to know him a bit.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-10-07 01:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Momma Jette 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should ask your family if he and his family know that you are diabetic. Diabetes is so widespread today, I don't think it will be an issue. But if your marriage is being arranged, there isn't much you can do, except request that your parents tell him and his family about your diabetes. If you want to marry him, perhaps it shouldn't be mentioned until later. If you don't want to marry him, make a big deal about how he needs to know.
2006-10-07 00:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would let him know cause if something happens he wouldnt know what to do to fix it. Its not kool to not tell info that is important like health probs. You would be hurt in you went into a diabetic fit and he didnt know what to do to help you. I have a soon-to-be brother-in-law who is one. Its very important to know health issues about loved ones. If not then dont marry him or accept proposal
2006-10-07 00:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by shelly h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...for starters I think he's too old for you...but nonetheless to answer your question...I would suggest that you lay down the facts straight on the table...even if you don't tell him now and he marries you eventually he will find out...to avoid any problems later on I would suggest that you make sure that he knows about your condition beforehand...and also make sure that you run a thorough background check on him and his family...all the best...
2006-10-07 01:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by blackdahlia616 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to allow your family to marry you off.... and he is accepting of this arrangement then it doesn't matter what you have.
People who don't or won't decide for themselves can't complain about what they get!
2006-10-07 01:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you met this guy over the internet... dont trust him. i hate all those internet sites because a kid just got kidnapped from myspace and there was a girl who was raped from one of the dating websites. so dont trust them.
if you know this person...how long have you been seeing this person. well if this doesnt help let me know and i will be able to answer better probably
2006-10-07 00:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by skaterhappybunny 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's too old for one. And you should tell him you are diabetic..because there is much for him to learn.
Especially if you go into shock..he needs to know what to do to save your life.
On another note......This marriage thing is too fast.....get to know each other first...or regrets may appear later.
2006-10-07 00:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this is the way of your family.
Then you should talk with your parents first they will guide you.
2006-10-07 03:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by CINDY W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows allllllll about you already.
2006-10-07 00:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't marrry someone you don't know. Thats not good.
2006-10-07 01:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋