why do men think it is cause they are not attracting?
Is this a game or a line to con the woman to have sex?
I simply am not interested in sex due to trust issues and/or stress and not wanting to really be in a relationship. So what makes this wrong for me not to want sex? I am honest about it. But it turns out to be a guilt trip about how the other person feels....un atractive....but he is atractive....I just am not interested most of the time.
2006-10-06 17:22:26 · 9 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off I don't know your age, but I can tell you a few things about my personal experience. I was quite young, (only 15) when I lost my virginity. Now being 24, Ive heard a lot of women say that they wish they would have waited longer. Mainly because when you do decide to have sex, it isn't as meaningful or romantic as you've pictured in your mind. There is no right or wrong answer here, all you have to do is decide if you are absolutely willing to deal with the repercussions. Men (especially teenage boys) typically cannot comprehend or understand our feelings. Now if you're not a virgin anymore, then simply put: If he cannot stay around and wait for when you're ready, then he's not worth YOUR time AND affection. If he honestly was 100% interested in you, he'd wait until you're ready, and for sure wouldn't put on a "poor me" attitude about it. That's his way of saying he's not good enough for you, which you in turn will feel guilty for. So the answer is you probably want to think more into this decision before doing anything!
2006-10-06 20:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's a guilt trip. But it's not wrong for you not to want to have sex. That's just how you feel and as long as you're upfront with him about it, he has to except it.
2006-10-07 00:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just do what your heart tell you. you dont need to have sex if you dont want too. it's your body and noone can tell you how to used it. also it's good that you tell them up front about you are not interested in sex. if you feel guilt dont cause you are not doing anything wrong. so good luck
2006-10-07 00:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys try to make you feel guilty about it so you can feel bad and give into it.
I say GOOD FOR YOU! Save yourself for someone who'll love you enough to marry you first. Don't give yourself to someone who plays guilt games with you!
2006-10-07 00:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by VIP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do not want to have sex then you have every right to say so. if there are guys who feel you should for whatever reason they are full of bullshit and are not worth your time. find a guy who respects your boundaries and does not push them like that.
2006-10-07 00:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real guys understand, fake guys don't understand they are thinking about busting a few nuts, and if you won't do it well then he will find some body that will help him in every way possible.
2006-10-07 00:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by UNKNOWN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just trying to trick you into it the same thing happend to me if you go through with it the entire relationship will change. don't give into him
2006-10-07 00:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Water 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with any one you don't want to.
2006-10-07 00:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by mr.longshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read my answer in your other question
2006-10-07 00:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋