I had a boyfriend (23) who has already been in relationship with me (21) for almost 2 years. I don't know how to describe him, but the only thing I can say is he does not even care about me. I mean he will care, after I am very angry with him. He could never plan anything for me, meaning like I have to do everything. Settle everything and stuffs. If asking about does he love me, I really cannot feel it at all. When I am talking with him, he seldom replies me, or can be said that he is mute to things I am saying. He used to show me an innocent face when I am really angry. He is a very useless guy, like he always asks money from me, but then he won't do anything, like cleaning stuffs to help me out. He will, once I am very tense. So guys, please tell me, what should I do with this guy? I think all the love I had for him all gone, but he's just not that easy to break off with. He will keep on sticking with me. His parents and sisters did not like me though.
2006-10-06 16:54:21 · 16 answers · asked by Lynda Theresia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though I never met with the parents but they already started talking bad things about me to my boyfriend and asking him to dump me, I think maybe is because my family is not rich enough or maybe I only a mother which has divorced so they think I am like a girl which was not well brought up. I mean not from a good family. His sisters last time bullied me a lot by saying hurtful things to me. For example saying stuffs like "why you never wear any branded clothes? your mother cannot afford to buy you is it" and more... I feel so depressed...
2006-10-06 17:01:44 · update #1
Thanks guys for the answers. Really helps me a lot. There is something I don't understand is, other people who are not my friends will see me like I always bully my boyfriend and always quarrel with him, actually I never bully him, but I get really angry when I am very tired and still have lots of things to do which he never helps. As I told before, he will help but after I am very pissed or angry. He helped also with a very bad manner. Now my housemate is his good friend, really not easy to break it off. I wanted to, but I am confused. He will say that he didn't come here for me, but for his friend, what can I do. I will see him everyday, even not at home, I also will see him everyday in college. Sigh...
2006-10-06 17:07:27 · update #2
Sometime I do feel that is this my own issue? Seriously I don't think it's easy to be my boyfriend. Since I was little, my health is not really good, and I am allergic to dust and dirty stuffs like dirty laundry and stuffs. I will keep sneezing and all. But he never care, he will always do everything that makes me explode. While my housemates will say that he is very hardworking like washing plates and stuffs. They really didn't know anything behind it. I am so tired. Just need a clue on how to get rid of him.
2006-10-06 17:09:56 · update #3
There is a reason behind this, I never met his parents is because I don't want to. It's like this, he had ever borrowed my money until I have no more money to survive abroad, even how hard I beg him, he does not have the money to return me. Then I gave my mother, his mother's phone, my mom talks nicely, but his mother's reply is, they are the richest family on that island, nonsense that their son will borrow money from me and even called my mom a whore. But at last they did give back my money because they didn't want to lose any face. My boyfriend is a big waste of money kinda guy. The first time I came to Malaysia to study, I just found out that he has lots of debts everywhere and never pay tuition fees for 4 terms. I help him pay some, the rest he used the pocket money for next month to cover up and ended up borrowing my money again.
2006-10-06 17:14:18 · update #4
Seriously, sometimes when I don't have any money, he will help me, but not much... really not much. And when he does not have any money and so do I, he won't borrow money from anyone, he wants me to borrow for him. I think I have cared for him more than anything.
2006-10-06 17:15:37 · update #5
In a way I think this guy may be holding you back in life. You deserve somebody who will be there for you and ultimately love you. If this guy can't do that for you then you should move on.
2006-10-06 16:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by chocolatechip333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you answered your own question. If you are worried about being overly emotional try this. Write down a list of what things are important to you in a relationship and then how your boyfriend ranks (be honest -- not emotional!)
Rate things from 1 - 5 and see what the average score ends up being. That will give you a rational side to help your decision. You are young and there are many other people out there to meet.
Good luck!
2006-10-06 23:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by shakopcool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's using you. No real "man" asks a woman for money. Plus, would you want to have those snobs for in-laws?
It seems he might be a spoiled brat who's used to getting everything he wants through manipulation. Girl, he's manipulating you. Dump him and find a decent guy. I can't believe you have been with him two years and never met his mother. That should tell you something right there. Change your phone number and get rid of him!
2006-10-07 00:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by mystery_lvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his family could have something to do with this problem. You really should just break it off. Yes its hard but you need to show the initative and take command. Once you do that, maybe it will show him how you really feel about him being the way he is, and maybe a relationship will be sprung back. Who knows though, good luck huN!
2006-10-06 23:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, are you nuts? Uh hell yeah dump him! He ain't giving you no act right, and asking you for money! And his family didn't like YOU... to hell with that they should be liking you you taking care of they son and brother! Get something called a restraining order if he gettin that crazy. You need to move on. That's bad company, energy, and karma if you stay in that predicament.
2006-10-07 00:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for him to go....not woth staying with him. Wasting time you could spend doing something else. Maybe you have not done it because you dont want to be alone.....i dont rknow...a guess. I would just get it over with asap.....sounds like it is already over excpet for the official part of telling him to take a hike.
2006-10-07 00:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's just mooching off of you and using you. If you don't feel it for him anymore and if he treats you that way, you shouldn't be with him.
Break ups are never easy but in some cases, it's necessary.
2006-10-06 23:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you need to break it off.
it's dead. totally uselessly DEAD.
you need to make sure it's a clean break.
don't be friends. get rid of him completely or else you'll be stuck forever.
hope this helps to give you an extra push to gain back some self-worth.
good luck.
2006-10-06 23:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Forget him. There are plenty of fishes out in sea.
2006-10-07 00:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mattman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say to get rid of him. You say he sounds useless, and thus you must not love him. There's no point.
2006-10-07 02:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋