t do his home work. We took him out of public schools because they passed him onto the fourth grade and he still has trouble with subtraction. Well he knows how to do it but refuses. We have tried almost anything you can imagine. We will not give up. Do you have any suggestions??
2006-10-06 16:37:25 · 10 answers · asked by lolly 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
A lot of tough love and constant reassurance! I too had a step-child that wanted to do nothing, but we loved and guided her through the tough times and most of all we set good examples. She is now an ambitous 20 yr old and in college. Patience is a virtue and time heals the wounds you think will never mend. Be strong, it will pay off. Good luck!
2006-10-06 16:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by SoCcEr AnGeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by stopping your bad mouthing of the boy's mother. Have you tried using subtraction as part of your everyday life? When you sit down to your meal, use the food you eat as you would the numbers on a sheet of paper. Do basic counting. Incorporate this into all aspects of your life. Measure food in the kitchen, measure oil in the garage, measure the bath water & soap density. Melt ice & weigh & measure the differences. MAKE IT FUN. Don't worry, he'll learn & there is no shame or crime in being a slow learner. Don't put your son OR his mother down. Back off if you can't be objective. You'll only end up making things worse & damaging your relationship with him. Have you ever had him tested for a learning disability? You can't force a brain to work if it is broken. Maybe he is just unhappy & from what you have written, perhaps YOU are his biggest problem & don't know it. He will sense your animosity, even if you don't say it to him. Children are smarter than you realize. Home schoolers are known for being a bit slower than their public school counterparts, but in the end, they grow up to be good citizens that are happy they didn't have to stay in a stressful overcrowded classroom.
2006-10-06 23:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, there is no excuse with not doing homework. If he won't do it on his own, sit with him and help him until it is done. If he does it on his own, make him feel good about the work he did, (praise is the best reward). At his age, get him interested in something. Whatever it is, karate, a club, even a hamster, use that to teach him that learning is important. For example, how much food does the hamster eat per week and therefore how long would a box of food last. If he does karate, do research on the Internet of the history of the art. Make him realize that learning is not just for school, but for his whole life, and that learning can be fun, rewarding and makes life interesting.
2006-10-07 00:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him on a tour .... show him people doing jobs that pay minimum wages .. and then some other jobs that pays big bucks ..show him the different life these people live .. the cars they drive and the nieghbourhoods that they live in .. also take him through the ghetto .. every city has one and let him see the peeps that has nothing ...make sure he understands that the only difference between these groups is education . .. then ask him which group would he like to be in .. if he chooses the bums then there is nothing that u can do to change him .. he just have to change himself ..
2006-10-06 23:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably an alternative reason I recommend therapy he will probably be more open to some1 unattached that he feels not pushed by. U know it could be part of him dealing with change. Good luck. N good 4 U not giving up , Ur a good parent ;D
2006-10-06 23:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nitemuse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the whole situation, he may becoming depressed......Maybe he has a hard time since his parents divorced. and he has a hard time staying on task..or just concentrating . He must have a lot on his mind..Maybe his Dad can do math with him only and not get mad....Its hard to not get mad when we know how to do something..It seems easy to us... ( .Why not check into a child psychologist ?? ) He may like you as a stepmother, but he may not be able to get close and trust you to talk about things yet.....He is only 9! good luck.
2006-10-07 00:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but i don't have an answer for you. It does sound like a power game to me. Maybe you should speak to your doctor and he could refer you to someone. Is he having trouble with you being with his dad? Best of luck with this.
2006-10-06 23:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by traceylolanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you gotto know what his problem is he might have a learning disability
if not u have to talk to him and see why he's not trying
PS. u r married to his mom, right? u should maybe not talk about her like that in front of him
2006-10-06 23:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough love,ask his mom to help you can catch more flies with a drop of honey,than you can with a gallon of vinegar
2006-10-06 23:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by krusty_blue_spaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you've tried everything..could u be more specific?? talk to his father so he can talk to his mom. she might get offended or whatever if u confront her yourself. you could always seek professional help..........
2006-10-06 23:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋