My son is a good kid. Does well in school (average), has friends, and the teachers have nice things to say about him. However, lately, his behavior is outrageous. He talks back, he doesn't listen, he doesn't do what he is supposed to do. For example, my husband (his father) took him to a cub scout meeting this evening. When it was my son's turn to read he just goofed around and clowned around and didn't take this seriously. This is the problem we seem to be having with him lately. Nothing is taken seriously - homework (around 2-3 hours per night), extracurricular activities, nothing. Taking things away as a form of discipline doesn't seem to work. We are at our wits end. What is the best way to deal with this type of behavior. I have considered that he may have a touch of ADHD/ADD but I'm not sure that this is really the issue. Any advise...PLEASE!
2006-10-06 16:33:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Todd Mannebach, Cubmaster Pack 3526, Hiawathaland Council
I currently am a Pack Cubmaster, and Den Leader for the Wolves(2nd graders), and the Webelos II (5th graders). I am also a parent, and majored in Psychiatry. So I think I am qualified to answer this one...
Behavior, or rather misbehavior in the scouting community can be quite disruptive. My child I can deal with using the "Oh you know your gonna get it at home." look, but other children are a whole different story. So as the years have went by, I found it better to find out why the boy is misbehaving, rather than how to disipline the boy, which is actually the parents responcibility.
The first shocker I discovered is that 'kids will be kids', it is in thier very nature to play and clown around. In your case, you mentioned that it takes 2-3 hours to do home work, theres something wrong there, very wrong. One of two things is happening, either your 9 year old is getting way too much homework, which I would consider unlikly, or he is having trouble with his studies.
This ADHD/ADD thing is pretty much a load of crock, I doubt 2% of those diagnosed with it, actually have it. It is a simple copout by the Psyciatric field, or in some cases parents, to not address the issues. When I was 9, there was no such thing as ADHD, it was called being rowdy, or having too much sugar.
My suggestion, which may not be the best, but is the simplest, is to have the school test his learning ability. He could be intelligent, and therefore bored with everything that his age group is doing, or he could be below average, which parents refuse to accept, and never explore because it might somehow reflect on them, in which case, his clowning around, or not doing things could be a sign that he is not fully grasping everything the other 9 year olds are doing. My step daughter was being treated for ADHD, turned out she had a reading disability.
Best of luck.
2006-10-10 08:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by coindude49801 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 21:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by pharisien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not jump to the conclusion he has ADD. Everyone these days seems to consider bad behavior to be a medical condition. I would first consider the more likely possiblility that he is a brat.
He needs some discipline. I suggest completly revamping what you have been doing. There needs to a routine, expectations, rules, and consistent consequences. I personally reccommend that you get a paddle and use it on a regular basis--though I am sure I will get heat for suggesting this.
But if you did these things you will see improvement. If you do not--then I would go the medical/psychologist route.
2006-10-06 19:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is also 9 years old, your son sounds like a carbon copy of him. I think all 9 year old boys have a touch of this bad behaviour syndrome. Do not assume that this is ADHD/ADD. No child should be labeled like that, or medicated like most kids with ADD are. He sounds like a typical boy his age. Have paitence with your boy, keep on him about his behaviour do not put up with the back talk or the face making( i hate that more then back talk). Make sure you stand your ground, and dont waiver he will soon figure out you mean buisness and may change his tune.
2006-10-06 16:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by kibbles 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I saw your problem. I've seen this problem in the 12 yr olds, but 9 year olds is a new case. Does he hang out with friends, if yes, then monitor the kids he talks and walks with.If no your child might have some serious problems. Try beingin his world. I mean his likings and choice, don't oppose him too much.Be friendly.
If problem still persists.Contact me:
joy14_sngpt@yahoo.co.in
Note: I'm not professional in this thing, but I myself was in this condition, very before.So, I know what he feels.
:)
2006-10-06 16:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My son is a good kid. Does well in school (average), has friends, and the teachers have nice things to say about him. However, lately, his behavior is outrageous. He talks back, he doesn't listen, he doesn't do what he is supposed to do. For example, my husband (his father) took him to...
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My husband and I have 2 boys, they're now 13 and 10. With BOTH of them, around the age of 9, they did the same kind of stuff. We were both at our wits end, too. But, it was a faze with them. I've known other parents who have challenges with boys especially around this age. I think they're getting ready for their pre-teen years and are testing the waters to see what they can get away with. What worked with us was to allow a little more freedom, but stay firm. It's not an easy time. Talk openly with him about anything and everything, and no matter what he asks, answer honestly...about everything.
Remember that 9-10 year old boys truly are weird and strange and a lot of the time difficult to live with! Hope it works out for you.
2006-10-06 17:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please - before you put your child on psychotropic pharmaceuticals as a solution to his behavior (which sounds understandably quite frustrating), check out holistic treatment options and ways other parents have discovered and created in addressing similiar problems.
Excellent book:
ADHD Alternatives: A Natural Approach to Treating Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (Paperback)
by Aviva J. Romm
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0FKA/is_n8_v60/ai_20979111
2006-10-06 16:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Milk Maid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have so much homework at his age? Maybe the child is stressed out from too much structured time.
2006-10-06 16:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by mimi_0863 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋