PLEASE ANSEWAR . I really need advice. AND PLEASE DONT BE RUDE?

Question

I'm really woreid if my boyfriend is cheating on me. I love him I did everything a girlfriend would do to make a guy happy. I ask him if he is , and he says no. I looked at our cell phone bill and I know all the numbers. I told him that if he ever loved someone else , I said just to tell me the truth and leave me. He told me that he loved me and only me. He want's to get married and have three kids right after high school. He even bought me a promise ring . The reason I think he's cheating . He get's tired and he's busy with shcool and work. Should I look in his phone and see if there are girl's numbers and how can I stop feeling that he's going to cheat on me? How can I tell him I feel this way. Please dont be rude , I just need alot of advice. I just dont want to get hurt agian. I really want to be happy with him.

And how I can tell he really loves me.

We're both in college . Not high school

I asked his friend who's like a brother to him who's married o my best friend if he is cheating . But they said no. They said that he's going to ask me to marry him after college.

I have nightmares at night , that he is. Is my dreams going to come true . Or do they dont mean anything

He bought me a kitten and it had a promise ring hanging from it's neck. Does that mean something?

Answer 1

Trust him, he's obviously serious. He's tired because he goes to school and work...it's a lot. Just chill and love it while it lasts.

Answer 2

Him being tired is perfectly normal. It doesn't indicate that he is cheating on you. In a relationship you just have to learn to trust the other person. That is part of maturing as a couple. You shouldn't look through his phone without him knowing. Would you like him to do the same to you? If you feel scared, just ask him. Be blunt. Say, "I am scared that you are cheating on me." and see what his reaction is. Getting married right out of high school isn't that bad. You can always get a divorce (not saying you should think of that as an easy way out). Having kids, however, is permanent. They stink, cry, vomit, keep you up all night... it's not as cute as it sounds. I would say wait for the kids. Get to really know each other and spend time together first.

Answer 3

Some tough love....odds are the problem may lie with you....you sound insecure which can make you look desperate. Seems like if you are not the center of his attention you worry that something is wrong. If you don't trust him, it will show sooner or later....which can make any relationship very tough. He may be tired and busy with school and work after all....or maybe you whine to much about this stuff...and it is getting on his nerves. Sounds like you may be crowding him a bit to much and clingy.

You also need to make yourself happy and be happy with who you are. I would say back of the issue...give him some breathing room....if he is cheating, it will come out in the wash sooner or later and you are better off without him in the long run. Find something else to devote some attention to other than him all the time....get a hobby...not just a one weekend one either, something that really interests you, anything to keep your mind busy and not worrying so much.

Hate to break it to you but.....sounds like you are in high school....odds are you will not get married to this guy anyway....maybe, but not likely. Enjoy your youth!

Answer 4

It sounds to me as if your boyfriend is trying to get some space between you and him. That does not mean he is cheating on you, or even thinking about cheating on you. Just listening to your side of the story, it is difficult to say that he is not cheating, but from the answers he is giving you, it sounds as if he is really wanting to succeed at getting through high school. That is a very important goal to accomplish. Relax and release your grip on him. If he really does care about you, he won't go away. And if he does go away, you might take a long look in the mirror and see if you are mature enough for a serious relationship. I am not saying that to be harsh or cruel, rather to let you know that what seems like love to us at 15/16/17, is something we look at differently at 20/21/and22.

Answer 5

First off, he ain't gonna tell you if he is, i've had guys that continued to lie to me even after it was proven.Also, just cause you know all of the numbers on the phone bill doesn't really mean anything cause it could be with someone you know. But i'm not really sure why u think he's cheating on you cause maybe he really is just overworked and tired, is this new what he's doing?He could love you even though he's cheating.

Answer 6

I had an answer and now that you gave the details about being in college then I have to take it all back.
Do not look in his phone, that will show jealousy and pettiness on your part. You are a grown woman, if you believe he is cheating either he is or you are very paranoid. He may honestly be working hard to achieve in college so that he will get a great job to support your family, cut the guy some slack or you will suffocate him. Looking at his phone is something that the girls on Maury Povich and Cheaters do...I think you are better then that!

Answer 7

I think you're being a bit insecure. You need to relax and concentrate on your relationship instead of worrying about "what ifs". Getting married right after high school might be a bit early though - you and your boyfriend should line up jobs before getting married. Having kids is very expensive these days. Good luck.

Answer 8

For starters your shouldnt have to look through his phone to see if he is cheating. It should be an instinct thing and you feel that way you said. But life is about risks if he says no believe him there is no other way to go about it. Obviously if he says he loves you only you and wants to have your kids he is pretty serious and wouldnt do anything to ruin that. Life is about taking risks and if you feel that he is cheating on you then live with it unless you have full living proof that he is. Otherwise dont accuse him, he probably isnt lying. good luck though!!

Answer 9

Calm down-you are only in high school. The more you bother him the farther away you are going to push him. You also have to look at where you will be 5 years from now-yes you love him but as you grow and mature things change. People change.

Answer 10

I don't think he's cheating. He might actually do his homework including studying unlike some people. People get tired. Don't worry about it. If you find more "bad" things, ask this question again. It's not even close to being proof. Have fun in your relationship, and stop worrying about.

Answer 11

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