I've dated men that were 20 or so years older than me and I've always wondered what people walking down the street think when they see a young woman (20s) and an older man (40s/50s) walking together. Do you automatically think gold digger? Pervert? A lot of the men I have dated were not rich so I was just curious.
2006-10-06 16:27:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No..not anymore...
My wife is 23 and I am 35. We are the perfect couple. We love each other and it has nothing to do with age. I am in no way RICH, so she isn't a gold digger. We just make each other happy. She takes good care of me and our house. We are expecting a little one this March. I have never been happier.
And as for if anyone says anything...well nobody has said anything to me... Not that they would. And not that I would care.
I would probably figure they were jealous.
F' em
2006-10-06 16:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an equal grounds. If a young woman dates and older man who has money, yes she might be a golddigger but then again the man is getting a younger woman, so the relationship is pretty equal. I prefer older men myself and since I am 40 that means men in their 50's but it just seems the men in their 40's dont' know what they want and are not interested in anything serious. Also the older men's children are usually grown or in college whereas the men my age and divorced have dependent children to support and spend their free time with their children and can't give a woman all their attention. Also in my experience I have always dated men my age and found myself involved with a man much older than me and I can tell you he is the best lover I have had, much better than those 10 minute men, so it goes to show than dating an older man doesn't cancel out your lovelife.
2006-10-06 16:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always, For me to call them a gold digger, I'd be looking for the bling that comes with being that trophy wife.. but then I have seen and known some who have fell in love with a age difference and have success in marriage for many years.
Sometimes as you said, it's the man not realizing his age or better yet relates to people younger than himself.
The woman sometimes finds that the older gentlemen are on their level a lot more than say someone closer in age.
Usually when I date, it more to attitude in life than a age requirement. I've met some 19 year olds who are way more mature than say a 27 or even 35 year old woman who wants to just bar hop all night. (and I'm 32)
Maybe you just find the 40 year old man more mature to your liking than the 20 year olds you date... I find that some people look sometimes for quality than quanity or some superficial number sometimes.
But like bi-racial relationships, I think the may-december relationships are sometimes becoming more mainstream sometimes....
2006-10-08 14:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by gearbox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think they are gold diggers. But it's only because you asked! When I see people on the street, I think they're really interesting! Everybody. But I don't have a judgment about them. My husband is MUCH younger than me. But you wouldn't think it walking down the street. It's all in how you behave. And if it bothers you, then you shouldn't be with those OLD GUYS who are 40/50!! HAHAHAHAHA They are in their PRIME at that age. Or having a midlife crisis!
2006-10-06 18:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's called "May/December Romance," but yeah, they think he's a childmolester or a sugardaddy, and they wonder why you would want someone older when younger guys are everywhere and wanting in your pants. I know alot of women want men who are financially secure and considered "experienced," but you really have to wonder what he thinks. Is he going to be happy when you are in your sexual prime and he's in the retirement home. The reason they are called "Gold Diggers" is because typically, the woman gets ALL the benefits, and the guy usually gets nothing except a young piece of @ss, but even that's not worth it in the long run.
2006-10-06 17:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's not always true. Some women just mature alot at a younger age. The older men seem to like that in younger women. Age ain't nothing but a number. If you can handle it there is nothing wrong with it. You shouldn't worry about what people will think. As long as you like him for him and he likes you for you. I have love dating older men. They have a little more sense than the younger men, but they can be *** holes too!
2006-10-06 16:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Beyonce2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possibly, but alot of us men know that some of the younger women have figured out that older men have more experience knowing how to satisfy a woman sexually. And a lot of women want that as much as they want loved so thats why they like older men. They should not be one to judge you no matter what your circumstance is.
2006-10-06 16:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by madroofer36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems to be the way most people see yong women going with older guys and they think that older guys with young gals are perverts...but most of the time that is far from the truth. So don' worry about what other people think and enjoy yourself.
2006-10-06 16:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, to be honest, most people see you a possible gold digger. And yes, most people would see him as a pervert. I don't get the dating your "dad type" deal. But whatever works for you.
2006-10-06 16:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares,question is,how did you feel? Are you a gold digger?was he a pervert?Where you happy with them?Did they make your life more meaningful?Did you do that for them?This is the question.Stop worrying about what others think,live your own life to the fullest.
2006-10-06 16:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋