My mom and dad got a divorce last year in may. Since then i have lived in 2 different apartments with my mom and my sister (6yrs. Shes so cool :D) And while we were still living at our old house, not even a week after my dad moved out, mom gets calls from someone i don't know. and then she has a boyfriend. Well they dated forever. And in my opinion he completely tore me and my mom and my sister apart. I NEVER get to see my sis anymore. So in spite i moved in with my grandma. I am more in touch with this house. I've practically lived here since i was 5. And its the only place i feel at home anymore.
oh yeah and at the end of the summer guess what? i was at the mall with my friend adn we were in hot topic and my mom calls and says she has something to tell me. and turns out she and her bf ranoff and eloped without telling anyone.
and i got a txt msg from mother today saying that she misses fighting with me and me in general. she wants me to move back.
Should I? Would you?
2006-10-06 15:54:37 · 9 answers · asked by Jade B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow, this is a tough one...and while i hope that you find the strengthhto forgive your mom, remember, none of us are perfect, you need to choose the place that is the most nurturing for you. are you doing well in school, have friends and generally adjusted? then maybe you should stay. But do try and work on having a healthy relationship with your mom, as someone who has lost both parents, you only get one mom.
2006-10-06 15:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does that affect you right now and can you see past all the hurt in order to truly give the relationship a really good effort now.
Your mom misses fighting with you? She is saying this jokingly I presume :) otherwise, moving back might not be the wisest thing.
She's making the effort to communicate however, so it's probably a good idea to at least discuss the possibility. Also, if you are having a little trouble with the new husband, take a look and see whether your mom is happier than you can remember seeing her in a while...does she look content and does she act as though there is nothing in the world that would tick her off right now? Then, if so...let your mom have this...if he's making your mom happy, it's easier to accept him and get along than not to and make your mom upset.
Good luck with this...I don't know if I'd actually move back just yet ...I'd probably work at it from a distance and ease back slowly, just to be certain everything is going to go smoothly.
2006-10-06 16:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom you are at peace right now but will come to visit on weekends and see how things work out. This will give you a taste of what it may be like if you move back home. But if you really consider your Grandparents house your true home, I would think long and hard before I would move out. Generally, step parents only get worse once the relationship is official and have more authority in family issues.
Good Luck
2006-10-06 16:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no since you do not have good feelings for your moms new husband already and since you were not really included
in their picture anyway what kind of mom would put a man first in front of their daughter you seem safe from emotional abuse from them you can always draw the line with them at the distant you are at if you have issues them..sounds like grandmas is safe and an stable enviroment that is what is needed for youth today
2006-10-06 16:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you've completely accepted the fact that your mom is married to someone (else) and that you're genuinely happy for your mom. Coz if not, you're gonna feel like you were forced to do it out of guilt, which will eat away at your happiness. Directly, i suggest don't move in as yet, but do have contact with your mom and this dude, get to know him and get to know them as a couple. Once you've accepted him, and comfortable with him and them as a couple, you can decide to move in with them.
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2016-10-18 23:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom needs to stop acting like a careless teen and start being a mother!!
2006-10-06 15:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if u dont want to and your mom needs to be a mother before being a woman
2006-10-06 17:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by dinobonito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u happy where u are.... then stay .. she needs your approval ... but u probly needs the peace of mind..
2006-10-06 15:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋