tried all of those things and it is not working. Do you have any other ideas?? IM me if possible. I am trying to get as many opinions as possible. I am also trying to find helpful resourses. Anything right about now is possible to help.
2006-10-06 15:53:56 · 5 answers · asked by lolly 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
He's got more inner strength than to be forced by discipline to do something he feels he shouldn't have to do. Instead of looking for harsher forms of punishment, you need to forget about controlling him and start communicating. Show him some love and respect and make him come first instead of what you think he should do. You might be surprised and proud to find out who he really is. And out of mutual respect, compromises can be worked out better than from brutality.
2006-10-06 16:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a way to IM you, but I actually have some questions. When you say won't do his work, what do you mean? Won't do chores? Won't do school work? Does the child seem depressed or angry? Have you had any major changes in your lives?
I did see the other posting and you got a lot of tough love responses. That might work if you child is angry and rebellious, but if the child seems depressed, that is not likely to help.
Honestly, my first idea is to try homeschooling the child. There could be factors at school (anything from bad kids to a stupid teacher) that is fostering this type of behavior in your child. I would consider taking him out of school and just unschooling for while. Let him detox a bit and adjust to being at home all the time. He might do a lot of vegging at first, but he will eventually get bored - and then learning can begin again. It could do your child a lot of good just to be near the people who love him most for a lot more of the time.
I would also suggest that there are herbal preparations that can work on mood - like Kava Kava or SAMe even - and can be used with kids, under proper guidance. I would consider taking him to a practioner or MD and have him checked out. There are illnesses etc that are marked by depression or listlessness.
Most importantly, I think, is for you to intention and visualize your child as he should be. Take 3-5 minutes a couple times a day and get the picture super clear in your mind of him happy and energetic and cooperative. Feel him being all he can be and see the 2 of you together, happy and peaceful and grateful.
Peace and good luck!
2006-10-06 15:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to punish him by taking away he,s computer games,T.V.,bike,ground him for week with no games,ect!The next time he does not do what he,s told ,Tell him before hand,You are going to take away{He,s Favorite Thing}For aweek!he,ll probably say so what to himself,But beleave me,Half way threw the week he,s gona go crazy in he,s head for skrewing up because he,s gona want he,s favorite what ever to play with,And I garenty you,He,ll think twice the next time you tell him to do something!And Remember,Don,t give in half way threw the week because he,s being good,or he,ll never respect your wishes!Good Luck,Hollywood
2006-10-06 16:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see your other posting. E-mail me at greenfieldacademy@yahoo.com and I will try to help. I have 4 children...three are grown...and two grandchildren.
2006-10-06 15:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lolly, Lolly, Lolly, get your adverbs here.....
Sorry.
2006-10-06 16:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋