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if they only know some of what they misunderstand? Kind of like how crazy people only know some of what they're crazy for thinking?

2006-10-06 15:26:33 · 10 answers · asked by *babydoll* 6 in Health Mental Health

Also, why do people assume you're stupid or daft if you forgive very quickly or don't make a big deal out of things?

2006-10-08 00:04:06 · update #1

10 answers

Getting over bitter feelings:

- Rational minds demand rational understanding of events gone wrong to reconcile differences, or;
- Logical minds similarly demand accordingly to reconcile, or;
- The faithful or those whose beliefs incalcate belief of forgiveness are better able to accept bitterness, or;
- The anitithesis of forgiveness is to exploit or puposefully position the situation to disadvantage the offending party, where revenge lends some consolation to the offended; and
- "Crazy" is simply a byword or word of not understanding the other persons' viewpoints, which may be reconciled with the above.

Most events revealed in post mortem to the inexperienced person through hindsight whereas the wise and experienced are able to postulate with a certain accuracy of the likely precursor to the said trigger of bitterness.

Sad as it may be, the unfolding event does not confer the benefit of hindsight to the person in a fast paced life but to the astute and casual observer, which is often the case.
-----Update to query-----
Assumptions are laudable attributes of the mathematical mind and the pragmatist in a fast pace environment. Less frequently, it is the accompanying relative to enquiring and cautious mind, whose satisfaction is derived through a drawn out process of consideration with healthy scepticism.

Expressions of 'Giving in' are associated with defeat and hence the perceived weakness as a knee jerk reaction, in favour and above;
The less perceptible privileged position of strength whose form and sometimes function, allows forgiving whilst abating the hostile attribution.

2006-10-07 08:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by pax veritas 4 · 0 0

I've been there. A lot of times the bitter feelings are from incorrect assumptions. In other words, a lot of times one person is wrong in what they think the other person is thinking or intends to do.

The key is to carefully go talk to the other person(s) involved. Don't bare your soul all at once, try starting out with something like "We may have had a misunderstanding". See if their reaction shows that they want to explore the subject further.

If you have mutual friends, ask them to give their opinion to you, of what the other person said or meant.

2006-10-06 22:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by DadOnline 6 · 2 0

adapting too todays crazy miked up lifestyle and sorting threw the verday ruble, and misteunderstood-- worl, especialy the work place these days in big fortune 500 companies and even smal busineseess, the mis comunications from managers and higher ups, some times,, its mind bogling, to try and sort out whos who in the work force anymore and if you try and say anything look, we dont need you out the door!! and most low level employess in this country are just so mistundrrstood--- trying too struggle there the mounds of, work that is piled on them some of them asre doing the work of 3 people, nobody is replacing anyone anymore that retires-- they just dump it on the poor slob of the litle guy, and how things ever get done or are mister stood is mind bogling too say the least. and yes, nice hard working people eventually do get over it in time-- but still are very veery biter inside of them selvess etc.

2006-10-06 22:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I consider myself basically a nice person and I get over it with: Revenge.

It works for me.

Clears the misunderstanding right up.
The bitter feeling is replaced with a sense of satisfaction and a warm, fuzzy sensation.

2006-10-06 22:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Clarify everything you misunderstand & that which you do not with the help of a person who can help you (...or is involved) . Although, sadly, sometimes we can be very stubborn with our reasonings. I would know, though you'll have to trust me. This faceless, nameless, shapeless force online.

2006-10-06 22:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Joan McBitch 3 · 2 0

Nobody is authentically really nice,
they have their really nice suit on
sticking feathers up your *** does not mean you'r a chicken-lol
Be weary of nice people, try to see it from their angle
what is there to gain from their niceness?

2006-10-06 22:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

leave it up to the sky. forgive and let go. anger hurts the soul. use poetry or some kind of artistic design to clean your heart.

2006-10-06 22:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

Well, don't dwell on it. Don't let them destroy you. You'll be a loser. The thing is you know how to understand people, and that's what counts.

2006-10-06 22:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Matilda g 1 · 1 0

misunderstanding i cant think abt that ,the paain is tooo much

2006-10-07 07:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

they just do. life goes on

2006-10-06 22:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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