A question about flirting, meeting possible dates, etc--mainly directed to women, but men can answer, too?

Question

Here is what tends to happen in my so-called love life: I will meet a nice girl. We'll get to know each other a little, and I'll think "She's nice, not bad, I think something could come of this." But then, as we're talking, say about a restaurant in town, she'll say something like "Oh yeah, my boyfriend and I went there last week" or even better "My husband doesn't like that place."

The question is: Why do you think it is that the taken women always seem to be the ones that want to talk to me? Does anyone else experience this? I know this is probably hard to answer, whereas no one on here really knows me. But I am wondering if anyone has any thoughts about this.

I think I need to clarify something.

I don't actually "go out" with these women. They are just people I know at the various places I go, kind of like casual acquaintances.

cutie pie: Too bad I don't know you, then. lol

Answer 1

Commited women are taking to you because they see you as a platonic friend/ listener/ nice guy/ buddy type. It's time to change your image.

Answer 2

this is a difficult question but you have to find the answer in yourself. let me try to explain -- some men get attracted to "a type of" women -- where the end result will be non-commitment. then the risk is null. it is not "they" who are attracted to you, but rather you are attracted to them because of this "no risk" factor. That is part of the answer. The other alternative, call it that way, few "women" -- are "profiteers" (sorry i could not find a more gentle word), once during travels -- a female had a non-stop companionship (conversation, drinks etc.)for almost 8 hrs. on a lovely beach -- then at last she told me "the truth" --she is waiting for her husband to come back from a fishing trip--and did not want to feel all alone during the whole day! Go and figure it out.Voila, part of the answer.

Answer 3

What I think is that you should spend more time on getting to know this women before you go out on a date. You don,t ask if they are involved with someone? Or maybe you know and do not care? listen that is looking for trouble. Maybe one of those days you are going to be confronted by a jelous husband or boyfriend. You need to be more carefull on who you go out with. Those ladies are not that nice if they are cheating. What tells you they are not going to do the same to you?
That is something I can understant. But everybody is different.
Just stay away from those ladies and get to know a person better before dating. There are plenty of nice single ladies, believe me is not worth the trouble. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I think a lot of these women might just be friendly, outgoing types that like to talk to almost everyone. Also, like someone else said, they probably do see you as a friend/buddy type.

Answer 5

You might be attracted to women you can't have without even realizing it. I have a friend that has bad luck like that too, but she only seems to get gay men. If I knew you, I would set you and my friend up on a date. It sounds like there might be potential. ;)

Answer 6

Are you sure you're not hanging out at the women's institute or something ?? Look for signs of attachment eg wedding /engagement rings...usually a dead giveaway..also you really need to start sussing out who you're talking to. ''How come a looker like you has no man in tow or is he minding the kids or out choosing your engagement ring ?? '

Answer 7

im not a chick and cant tell u why it happens but it happens so often and its frustrating.its like u are interested or not, dont give me that my bf this or my bf that bs.oh by the way, i learned if u stick around and be there for them they will eventually fall for u if u play ur cards right.

Answer 8

ah, you'll find someone!!! lol, you sound so nice!