Okay...I'm bisexual....I dont want to be ..... but i am.. There is a part of me that is attracted to girls. I have a friend who I've been bestfriends with for four years since sixth grade. She's really special to me. She's always there when I need her, she listens to me,we always have something to talk about, were into the same stuff and everything. But she has alot of ailments...she's homocidal,she has depression,acid reflux,suicidal tendencies, and ADD. I really care for her...but sometimes I think I go to far when I try to help by keeping her happy. I buy her things all the time...I come running when she calls...i get jealous when she's hanging out with my other friends, and...I cry for her..Do I love her? Should I tell her even though she's straight and I'm a disgusting bi person? Yes...I am ashamed to be bi for anyone whos confused.
2006-10-06 14:20:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you are in love with her..
maybe you should tell her so you can have some relief by getting it off your chest. maybe she'll understand and it might make her happy that someone out there loves her.. she may not approve of your feelings if she's straight. but, you'll never know until you tell her how you feel.... also, you shouldn't be ashamed to be bi.. lots of people are.
2006-10-06 14:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how can she listen to you if she has ADD? If she's homicidal you'd best keep away from her. She seems to have many problems that you are not prepared or qualified to deal with. You better not tell her you are bisexual or that you have feelings for her. She may be horrified by what she's hearing and then really snap. You might push all the wrong buttons. But if you still want to find out, ask her opinion of gay and bisexual people. Tell her you read something about it in an article. don't give any info about you personally, talk in the third person and see what she answers. Truthfully, seek love somewhere else. She has too many mental problems that could be hazardous to your health. I am not putting you down about your sexual preferences. You are your own person and can choose to be whatever you want. It is your safety that concerns me. Talk about this to an adult that may be able to direct your friend in the right direction to get help for her mental problems.
2006-10-06 14:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have nothing to be ashamed of... being bi isnt a curse or the plague or anything like that. Ok about your friend...It sounds as if she has a lot of problems and I don't think you are in love with her so much that you are a concerned friend. I totally understand feeling like you are responsible for keeping your friends happy and safe but you can't possibly take responsibility for her life. Maybe you should talk to her about getting some help before she hurts herself you or someone else.
2006-10-06 14:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight... you're asking whether you should tell a straight "homicidal" person, who happens to be your best friend, that you are interested in her? What good would that do except maybe send her off the deep end?
I would say to keep it to yourself. If she's straight, and you know she is, it's just going to make things weird between you. If you think it would be damaging to you to stay friends with her knowing that you have a crush on her or whatever, then maybe you should start putting some distance between you and your friend. You cannot fix her or change who she is. I don't see this as being a very healthy friendship.
2006-10-06 14:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by spanish kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes to some extent you do love her. i love my friends, and there are only about 2 or 3 friends who i would do those things for. but that doesn't mean i'm in love with them. on the other hand you shouldn't be ashamed of who you. Once you are comfortable being you then the rest (with dating and everything) will figure itself out. don't tell her you are in love with her. she knows you care, and that you are being a good friend by your actions. sometimes by putting words to feelings we tend to screw up things. just sit back, relax, keep being a good friend. that's what she needs right now if she has that many problems... she probably couldn't handle the truth, and it may cause even more problems.... good luck!
2006-10-06 14:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with being curious about the same sex. I was, then I tried and it wasn't for me. You love your best friend your feelings might not be clear what it truly are. Friend or more. Your friend being suicidal tendencies is frightening. Being a friend and standing by someone in that situation can be difficult at times. Just be sure she gets help and don't leave her hanging.
2006-10-06 14:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by heidischu2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, dear, all I heard was "she's homicidal."
Noooooo. Noooooo. Noooooo. I can't stress this enough. Noooooo.
You feel sorry for her and you have a lot of heart. I don't want to tell you you're bi or anything, but I'll say you have a lot of heart...and you should be more careful who you share it with and in what ways you share it.
Tell her family about her ways; that would be the caring thing to do. If that doesn't work, tell another adult.
2006-10-06 14:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a beautiful heart for being there for your friend. It does not necessarily mean that you are in love with her, I love my friends too. You can love someone without being attracted to them. It's ok to feel how you feel, if you think it's the right thing to do, tell your friend that you are bi. If she is really your friend she will understand, and if she doesn't at least you know that she was not your true friend that you deserve
2006-10-06 14:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Alesig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be ashamed of who or what you are, as long as you are a good person.
You may love your friend, but you may love somebody else the same if you gave them the same type of attention.
So it could be, that if your with somebody a lot you become very attatched to them, and if your a very loving person, you may feel the way you do now.
Try spending more time with other people and see if your feelings change.
It may help to make your mind up what to do.
See ya
2006-10-06 14:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by RAZOR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend here is what i think. ur only a disgusting bi person if u make a move and u KNOW shes straight. I feel ur pain and i think its natural to some degree to have feelings for teh same sex. The one thing u dont wanna do is tell her. it'll just ruin everything. im straight myself so i dont know "how it goes" but if u have a strong reason to think she shares what u feel maybe u should tell her but its up to u. but if ur sure she doesnt my advice is DONT.
2006-10-06 14:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by rak15tango 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋