the world was so "safe" for our parents, there were no violent cartoons to deal with, no internet, for us too internet is new. So how do we help our kids cope with that. Also, other kids influencing your child to do things he/she would not do? Eg. using "bad" language?? Any answers???
2006-10-06 13:39:59 · 9 answers · asked by ~EleGantLaDyY~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
probably not to use advice gained from a bunch of strangers in an internet forum.
2006-10-06 13:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by telefantastical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bring them up the same way your parents did. It was a safer place in those days, but children always need structure, they need boundaries and they need to know the word NO. And NO means NO and not maybe, or we'll see. They need manners and how to eat properly, they need communication and they need quiet time. They do not need all the newest gadgets, rap and too much TV. Make a list with your children and have their input according to age. Give them certain responsiblities, how often to watch cartoons and more Discovery Channel, make dinner a talking affair, where they can report on their day. They need to read before bed, which is the quiet time, they need a curfew and they need consistency, not wishy washy parenthood. There will be times where they hate you and might even say so, but you need to stand your grounds. You are the parent, always remember that. They can have rewards for all the good things they do and foremost always let them know that you love them. Even if they disappoint you at times, you're always there for them and telling the truth and having trust works both ways. Bad language is not tolerated at any time and there will be punishment for that, like sitting in the kitchen and writing why not to use bad language. If they say , soandso has this or said that, just let them know in your house this will not be tolerated and that you can't have everything anyone else has, but you might want to write it on your birthday or christmas wish list. All in all even though times have changed, the No word hasn't it still means know and the only ones you have to fear are the weirdo's that are out. Therefore a curfew is in order and so is a decent bedtime.
Good Luck.
2006-10-06 21:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR choice whether she watches that stuff on TV or not. I know how hard it is, my kids always watched TV and my husband always had it on, too. But really, if I was a parent in these days, I'd be very strict about what my kids watched.
Bad language is a hard one, but I think it's best not to overreact, and create an attraction for it. As long as you don't use that language in the home, your child will not make it a habit.
And remember that this world is her world. She has to live in it "as is" and that includes all the influences out there that seem horrible to you.
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2006-10-06 20:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 5 and 8 year old I totally understand where you are coming from. The one thing I trust in is my faith in God to guide me through the world today. There is so much negative stuff out there but I just hope that I can teach my kids to make good choices in there walk in life. To be very honest i wish I could protect them forever and not let them experience the heart ache and the trouble world that we live in sometimes,but I can't b/c they have to live thier life and I want them to enjoy life and not be scared of it .
2006-10-06 21:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by cutman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your child ....he /she is not as naive as you may feel .....my daughter is 4 ...and very well informed ....informed enough to where she still behaves like a child but can understand some things about this world that we live in today.
2006-10-06 21:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T encourage them to be congressional pages. Other than that, I always felt that positive, subtle (but directional) education will help any child achieve success regardless of what environment you bring them up in.
2006-10-06 20:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by AeroMidwest82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find out, let me know
First of all, I am planning on having the family computer in a family room. I will not allow a computer in my child's room.
2006-10-07 09:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best tip of all:
Keep him away from rap!
2006-10-06 20:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as parents its our job to guide them so that they'll make the corrct decisions
2006-10-06 20:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by ellie_2121 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋