My son is 15 months old the other day I was dancing with his little friend who is just a few months older than he is and I hugge dhim and my son broke into tears and screamed and jumped into my lap. The next day at a play group A young boy came to me to comfort him and i held him, my son started crying and began to pull my face to look at him he would look me staright in the eye for a few seconds then hug me, he would keep doing this every few seconds as long as the child was in my arms. Is this normal behavior or is it a little etreme for a child his age? Please only answer this question if you have children.
2006-10-06 13:34:18 · 15 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
it's not extreme at all. he was jealous. that's all.
he is the center of your universe right now. how DARE someone else sit in HIS lap (yours) hahaha.
my daughter is 7 and still pulls that sometimes when we visit family.
it's normal. he's just saying, MOM! i LOVE YOU and letting everyone else know you are his. not theirs.
don't stress. love these moments. they go by so fast. pretty soon you have this smelly kid who grunts at you as he walks up to his bedroom. haha it happens sooner than you think ;-)
2006-10-06 13:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by just that girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my daughter. I started letting her help me make the other child feel better by having her rub the other child's arm or give the child a hug. We also do a lot of family hugs at home where mommy and daddy pick her up and we all hug each other together. (and then she gives us kisses. It so sweet!)
Your son doesn't understand that you can show love to someone other than him and he's afraid he wont get love anymore. Try to make sure you show him examples like you hug a teddy bear and then he hugs the teddy bear. It's also a good start at teaching him compassion. Before you know it he'll be trying to hug other kids that are upset to make them feel better!
2006-10-06 14:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Annie Hightower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously when he saw you holding the other child he felt that his place was threatened...quite normal for small children. He kept doing what he did to remind you and the other child that you are HIS mother, not the other child's. As for the screaming when being hugged by another child...maybe he just didn't want to be hugged at that moment. I'm sure there are things you do SOMETIMES but don't want to do when you're not in the mood to do them.
2006-10-06 22:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are now older, 11 and 9, but what you've described is not unusual, especially if he's an only child. Just make sure you give him the attention he needs (not wants) and reassure him that, when you comfort another, it doesn't lessen your love for him -- your heart is big enough to care for many.
2006-10-06 13:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is almost 2. He has not shown this kind of jealousy yet, when I hold someone else's kid or am not paying attention to him. Although, he's pretty self-centered and wants my attention, regardless if I'm holding a baby or making dinner. He just doesn't differentiate between something inanimate or another person holding my attention!
2006-10-06 13:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had 3 kids and my youngest is 15 mos. He is very jealous. I don't it is extreme that your child acts this way, I imagine my son would be much worse if he didn't have 2 other siblings he has to share me with.
2006-10-06 13:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by believer26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everything is normal. There is a HUGE variety of normal behaviour, not just one set of standards which are normal. I repeat: Almost everything is normal. There's hundreds of kinds of normal. If an unwanted behaviour persists for twelve months, then that might be abnormal; but this? Fine. No worries.
2006-10-06 18:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 month old and she is the same way..At this age they don't understand that you can be compassionate with another child....The way they see you .....MOM and mom loves me and I don't want anyone else trying to get my moms love..It is a jealousy thing but they just don't understand that at this age.
2006-10-06 16:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it`s a normal part of a childs devellopment, my 15 month old daughter is doing the same, if her sister hugs me she cries, pushes her away & tells her no, she does the same to her dad.
2006-10-06 23:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by imyagoodluckcharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a little young for your kid to show jelousy. But in my eyes that is what he is doing. Just tell him, when it happens, that it is ok. Just give him security, and then deal with the situation at hand. I think it is good for him to deal with this now. He needs to learn that you need to help other kids too, but you still love him.
2006-10-06 13:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋