Should we stay together?

Question

Ive been seeing my boyfriend for the past year, my mum seems to believe that we are sleeping together although i try and try to prove im trust worthy, which i am as i havent lied to her at all. how can i make her understand? were both 15.

Answer 1

It seems to me that you and your bf have set standards that you go by. This is really great. But now, you have to find a way to get your mother to realise it, too!
This is important, and I don't think that the solution is to separate at all! But you do need to set the record straight with your mum.
Your standards are excellent; she needs to be proud of you!

Answer 2

Try to understand ur mum; she was 15 once, too, so she knows the feelings u have @ this age. One thing u might think about is to promise her that when/if u decide to have sex with ur bf, u'll talk to her first & ask her to give u permission to get on some kind of birth controll. From the tone of ur letter, I'm assuming u have an open relationship with ur mum, & if I'm right, that's the best thing u can do for her. That just might aliviate any fears she has that u're sleeping with ur bf. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You should be ever-so-grateful to have parents who care about you, nowadays too many parents are passive and preoccupied to give the time of day to their teen children. Achild's entire life is very largely determined by how well his parents stick to the job of being parents. While drugs and other vices seem to be wrecking millions of our young people, the real destroyers are parental neglect, erratic discipline, and lack of interest. These are some of the things which drive youth to the excesses which will devastate them. These types of parents are so self-centered that they don't love their children enough to want to motivate them.
Most parents want to rear their children well. If, for no other reason, they hope to point to them with pride.
Today is very different from when your parents grew up. And a parent who keeps on top of what is going on in his teen child's life has to be commended as millions of parents who don't, realize too late the terrible consequences.
And besides, the lessons you are learning now from your parents parenting you, will be more than likely applied to your own children when the time comes.
I would suggest straight-talking with your parents about your life as it is now, being open and honest can really clear the air. And besides, you can't " white-wash reality ", I mean what's important to you, how you react to temptation are important matters that should be discussed over with your parents. I'm sure you must have countless questions that need an adult to explain, you cannot hope to understand the issues that are probably plagueing your mother right now. Talk with her and clear the air. Remember that you are important to them and that alone demands respect. God Bless

Answer 4

I wouldn't give up my boyfriend just because my mom thinks we're sleeping together. You definitely need to have a serious sit down with your mom. You need to find out why she thinks you're sleeping with your boyfriend to find out how to help her to believe and trust you.
Your mom is probably having a difficult time dealing with you growing up. Remind her of the values she's taught you and how much you value her respect.

Answer 5

Some parents just won't understand. Most of the time it comes from a comparison of how they were when they were your age. There's not much you can do about it. I had the same problem when I was younger. When it comes down to it, she's probably just looking out for you.

Answer 6

When somebody is falsely accusing you, the best thing to do is just shake your head & say, "OK, believe what you want to believe." There's no way you can prove it to her. It's really too bad, not trusting your kids. Don't prove her right. Eventually, she may realize that she was wrong to accuse you.

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Answer 7

don't sleep with the b/f- you're too young! And don't get in any situations that would be too tempting, or would look like you were up to something. Your Mum just wants to take care of you....

Answer 8

Tell her that she raised a good kid and she needs to trust you and more power to you for not sleeping at age 15 Yikes !!

Answer 9

You are 15. Evidently your mother is older. Mother's worry -- about EVERYTHING!!! You need to communicate with your mother about your feelings. You need to tell her how you feel when she accusses you about things you haven't done. She is in her own way-- expressing her fears for you. Sometimes grownups don't communicate very well either -- so, that leaves it up to you. TALK -- don't shut her out.

Answer 10

take a time with your mom and talk to her, tell her to trust you... and that you're not going to sleep with this guy... but you're too young for this...