I gave him few hints about this issue but it seems like he's not interested talking about this...my purpose is to see if i can go on with life without seeing him for awhile...how do i tell him without breaking his heart? any suggestions?
2006-10-06 13:19:16 · 20 answers · asked by s0ul_kissed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no such thing. You are either in a relationship or you are not. There is no in-between.
Don't play with his emotions and don't play with yours. If you want to be with him then make the effort to be with him. But if you think the relationship is not good for you, end it. There is no way you can end it without hurting him, but the "we are on a break" doesn't make it less painful it just makes the pain last longer. The sooner you break up with him the sooner he can go on with his life, and you with yours.
2006-10-06 13:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no way to do this without breaking his heart. The best thing to do is just to be honest and forthright. Tell him you need some time apart, tell him why, and tell him that it's not negotiable. This kind of thing is like removing a band-aid; if you rip it off really quickly it will not hurt as much. However, if you peel it off really slowly, you will feel each hair being ripped out of your skin and it will be painful. Just do it in one shot.
Whatever you do, don't be equivocal. Don't string him along with "maybes" and see other people in the meantime. Make it clear to him what the situation is. That is what will really hurt a guy: being deceived. I'm not suggesting that you would do this, but it's been done to me.
2006-10-06 13:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you need to be honest. If a relationship doesn't contain a certain level of honesty then it will not work out. Try explaining why you want the break. if he loves you, then he will understand and maybe even agree with you. If he doesn't understand then maybe you are both on two different sides of the fence. I think it is good to take a break. You might find out things about yourself that you never knew. Just remember to do what you feel is right.
2006-10-06 13:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by goinginsane76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id make sure that by "break" you are fully aware that you may never get back together again, and you are essentially breaking up. Would you really accept your bf saying he wants to exerpience life solo for awhile just to see if he'd be ok? My advice: tell him you want to slow down a little and get a new hobby, meet some new ppl, do your own thing while still being together, that is if you value your relationship.
2006-10-06 13:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by ophierose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 11:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by osuch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. If he's in love with you, you WILL break his heart. That is unimportant though. Life is too short to waste it not being 100% happy. If you aren't sure you are happy, then you MUST tell him regardless if his feelings. Suppose you wake up 10 years from now and realize you wasted your life. Take a chance. Life is about risks! Good Luck!
2006-10-06 13:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have lost the passion you once had for him.
Honey, if he is not interested in talking about breaking up then of course you are going to hurt him but you can't lead him on this way. When you do break up, it is best to cut all contact.
2006-10-06 13:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I really care about you, but I haven't felt that our relationship has been all that it could be right now. I'd like to take a break for a while, just to clear my head about things." Don't just ask for a break, give him a time estimate, 2 weeks, 2 months, whatever. He needs to know that you don't intend it to be forever, and then he'll be more willing to let you have the time you need.
2006-10-06 13:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come right out and say, I think it is time for us to take a break from each other, so I can see if this is what I really want, I hope that you understand, and that may be it will be good for both of us. Tell him you don't understand it yourself, but you think it is something that you have to do!
2006-10-06 13:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say in a polite way I think we should take a break in our relationship to clear my head.
2006-10-06 13:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by deed792 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋