I'm 19. I'm not some little kid asking questions about a little boy or something. Just so you all know before hand. My boyfriend and I were living together and he has a kid with another woman. I over heard my boyfriend telling his ex that he still loved her. So I broke it off with my boyfriend because I didn't want to be with a guy that loves someone else. Was I being to harsh? I really miss him and think that I want to get him back. Should I try to or should I just give it up?
2006-10-06 12:07:59 · 15 answers · asked by surfadudett00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After I kicked him out.. She didn't want to be with him either and wouldn't allow him to move in with her either
2006-10-06 12:11:07 · update #1
That is a sticky situation. There will probably always be a place in his heart for this woman because they have a child together. If this is not your first boyfriend, then there's probably a soft spot in your heart for another past love of yours. I believe it is possible to love more than one person at once, but his love for her and his love for you may be on two very different levels. This is definitely something that you should have sat down and talked to him about, probably before you began dating him. I would still advise talking to him about it because you will regret not doing so and never knowing how he really feels towards you and about the whole situation. Be patient, though, and let life happen as it will. If you two are meant to be together then it will happen naturally, but it may take a little time now that you've broken things off so quickly. He may be afraid to commit again because he's hurt over it.
2006-10-06 12:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by missmarymack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing honey. If you were to stay with this guy you would only end up getting hurt. If you try to get him back you will only be giving him the message that its ok to treat you like second best and he will carry on doing it until you lose all sense of worth.
Stay strong and if he really does love you he will come running to you and if he does make him work hard to earn your love back. At least then he will learn to respect you.
If he doesn't come back then it just isn't meant to be and you will get over it. Us women are stronger than men give us credit for.
Get out there and start having fun and meeting new people and before you know it you will be happy again. If not with this guy then with someone else ... or even by yourself.
I wish you all the best x
2006-10-06 12:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have problems.
He is how old? How long has he been married to the mother of his child? If he's not married to her, what's wrong with him? Is he making child support payments like he should? This guy is going to have many years of financial and family obligations.
Give him up, but also get your own life together.
At 19, are you in college? If not, why not?
Get a good education before you get emotionally involved with losers.
2006-10-06 12:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are for sure that he has said that, then it's not fair for you to be in a relationship where you are not being loved in return. You were not being harsh, and I suggest that you not go back to him.
He has a child with another woman, and he loves her. I wouldn't want to be the one who wants to ruin two people wanting to be the family that they want to be.
2006-10-06 12:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by marypaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone he don't want to be with you or he would have never told the other girl that in the first place. He was prob saying it to see what she would say and if she said no then he was just gonna not say anything and let you go on beliving that he loves you.
2006-10-06 12:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to compete for someones heart. If he still loves his ex, let him go back to her and don't look back. Find a man who can commit fully (that's heart, mind,. and soul) to you and to your relationship. You deserve nothing less.
2006-10-06 12:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by A M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he loves her, and not you, then you did the right thing. You deserve better than that. I know right now, you miss him, but go out some....meet somebody that will love YOU. Good Luck!!
2006-10-06 12:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u should never get back together with him and just give up
2006-10-06 12:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by *Living a {{ღяøM@N!Cღ}} Tragity* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that depends- does he just "love" her because shes his kids mother or is he "in love" with her? if he is "in love " with her than do your self a favor and stay away.
2006-10-06 12:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God. Stay far, far away from him. All I can see in your future with him is hurt for you.
2006-10-06 12:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋