my boyfriend keeps insisting for me to a 3 sum with another girl. but i don't know if i should do it. i told him if thats what he wants then he has to do my favor. i want a 3 sum with another guy. he won't do that for me. what should i do???
2006-10-06 12:00:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a lot of guys have that fantasy, to have both their girlfriend AND another girl. that way, it's almost like being allowed a little bit of sexual freedom. the hope that the girls will do each other favors will be a big plus, in his book, because he sees two hot chicks getting it on. guys don't seem to see anything wrong with lesbianism, in general, as long as their girl sticks with them. -> no relations with the third girl without him. girls are more sexual than guys. sure, a guy might be out to spread his seed all over the place, but girls are the finer creatures - and they know that.
guys usually don't want to participate in 3-somes with other guys, because of the fact that there's another guy. a lot of times, it has nothing to do with fear that the other guy will touch him, cause usually the two guys don't touch each-other. unless there's something going on there... but, usually a guy doesn't want to see his girl getting porked by another guy. he doesn't want to see his girl getting all over another guy's junk, and loving it. it's a jealousy thing. plus, he obviously don't want her having relations with him when he's not there. there's a small thought that since it was ok with you once, what if the girl thinks it's ok for a little private time?
of course, then there's always swingers, who i think the ultimate goal is to learn better tricks for sex. i dunno.
in any event, you need to remember that sex is about getting to the edge of comfort, and dabbling your foot in uncomfort. you need to decide when things are too uncomfortable for yourself, as does he. and as a couple, you need to make the same choice. if fighting occurs after such acts, it's hard to get back on good grounds. if fighting is only occuring considering whether or not you'll go through such acts, that's just childish. it seems to me that neither of you is willing to do the act for the other person, and is only willing to do what THEY want. which is not what sex is about
sex is about pleasing the OTHER person
2006-10-06 12:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!
Ok for one.... if you don't know if you should do it then you shouldn't do it.
2nd...... if he really respects you and loves you he would not be insisting it over and over again after you stated how you feel about him asking you something like that. If you answer no, then he should drop the question. if you anwered maybe i will think about it.... then he should wait till you bring up the 3 sum conversation.
3rd: if you asked for a 3 sum with another guy and he said no to your fantacy, then why should you give into his, if he is not willing to do it for you. the relationship should be equal. !!!!!!
In my opinion, 3 sums do nothing to help a relationship it only causes people to drift and become insecure within their own relationship. the guy/girl is always wondering if their partner prefers the other person they are having sex with. there are to many feelings that involve sex in the first place, you dont need unwanted feelings to arise!!!! I hope this makes sense to you.
best of luck!
2006-10-06 12:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if I was you I would dump him right quick and in a hurry! All he wants is some *** right now girl! If you told him that you don't want to do a three some then he should respect your wish not keep begging and insisting. If I was you I wouldn't even considering having a three some with my man because I won't and I don't share my man and you shouldn't either. But I can see why he is saying no to your request because that would make him gay if he has a three some with another guy. My advice to you is to don't do it and consider trying something else.
2006-10-06 13:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this guy is getting bored with you. Never let a guy try and talk you into something you don't want to do. Obviously, if he was happy with you he wouldn't be asking to have someone else join in on the relationship, much less in such a personal way. My advice: dump the guy. The reason being that he may get frustrated with this magical threesome he has in his mind not actually occurring and blame you then cheat with someone so that he can have the experience he's looking for, and he's not finding it with you if he's asking for another girl to "join in". Sorry, hun, I know it might suck to hear that or look at things that way, but that's life. No one said it was going to be easy.
2006-10-06 12:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by missmarymack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 22:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by mchellon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of yourself first along with your respect. Do you really want to have sex with your boy friend and another guy or are you just saying that because of what he wants to do? He sounds selfish to me and personally I'd wonder why he would want another girl joining you. Are you not enough for him? You should be. I don't think it will ever be the same if you go through with this.
Now if you are for this type of sex then go for it but my advice would be think hard and long about it. Hopefully you will go find someone who loves and wants just you.
2006-10-06 12:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by tea cup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your boyfriend just wants to do this for one reason only. He wants sex with this other woman, and having all three of you together gives him an excuse to do so. This would be the same as cheatiung with your consent, in my opinion.
You should never be pressured into sexual situations you're not comfortable with under any circumstances. Sex without full consent, or under stressful conditions wwhere you don't feel comfortable 100% is abuse.
Mel
2006-10-06 12:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you wont do a 3 sum with another chick unless he has a 3 sum with another guy. If he doesn't then dump him :)
2006-10-06 12:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Blah..... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if he want's it so bad then you should tell him to take a hike if he won't drop it. if he wants to be with another woman then tell him to go and find one you won't have a prob finding someone else you found him didn't you? If he wants to be with you and only then he should understand your feelings about it. If he respects you then he should understand also.
2006-10-06 12:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, you say you dont want to sleep withanoher girl - so dont, never do anything thatmakes you feel incomfortable
secondly, your guy wants it on his terms, but he wouldnt entertain another guy in the picture - if he cant share, why he ask should you to.
third... why are you still with him?
2006-10-06 12:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by miz Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋