I'd really like to get with this Asian girl I know but I'm afraid of what my parents will say or do. They've always been they type that say that people should "stick to their own kind." I woulnd't be afraid of what they'd say to me. I'm strong and could take it. But what if I wanted to take her home one day? I'm afraid they might hurt her feelings or such. What should I do?
2006-10-06 11:56:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im sure her parents tell her to stick to her own kind too.
2006-10-06 12:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by E W 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think I'd start dating her, assuming she has mutual feelings for you. If things progress favorably and you want your folks to meet her at some point, just tell them how you feel about her but that you have some concerns about how they'll treat her. If she's a really nice gal, and most asian ladies are, I'm sure your parents will be quite impressed and will probably warm up to her in no time at all.
But cross that bridge when you come to it. Right now you've got to see if she'll go out with you. It kind of sounds like she will. Good luck.
2006-10-06 12:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date her anyway. u can't spend ur whole life living in fear of what ur parent will approve of or not. Chances are they ultimately want to see u happy n if this girl makes u happy then they'll have 2 get over it. think about what experiences u'll miss out on if u don't. u shouldn't have to spend ur life thinking about "what if?........". If it doesn't work, then at least u tried. Ur parents may need 2 be educated on a few things...no offense...but they should stop generalizing and get to know peeps of different races on an individual basis. hope this helps u :-)
2006-10-06 12:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to deal with it. This is the 21st century, and interracial couples are ubiquitous, so they need to get over this silly notion of not mixing! Besides, I don't think your parents would really ever say anything about her in front of her (not saying that talking behind someone's back is better, though), so I don't think it's that much of a problem. Call them on their racism because that sh*t doesn't fly now unless you're living in Hickville... you may not change their minds, but you should at least tell them to mind their own f*cking business.
2006-10-06 12:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a intense verbal change with your moms and dads. Ask them why they're such racist and what are their causes to hate asians. tell them that you imagine that the international might want to be extra perfect if human beings respected others races like asians. believe me, your moms and dads will sense like they ought to accept as true with you and it is going to help to modify their thoughs. besides, do in simple terms not provide up of the asian female, in case you truly like her, so be at liberty with that babe!
2016-12-04 08:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your parents are racists, you must decide if you want to cut off all ties to your parents if she "is" the one for you. I am an Asian woman and My family cut off all ties to my sister ever since they found out she was going out with a white guy. They are racists too. Now, my sister have regrets because she didn't even marry this guy. So you have to decide if that's what you want to do.
2006-10-06 12:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Half white and Vietnamese my father was taught the same but he loved my mother anyways and went for her and you should the same and his parents ended up loving my mom for they love their son you be surprise to know that some narrow people can change but before you bring her home let her know what how your parents are but you like her anyways and be strong in your views and go from there good luck to you
2006-10-06 12:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you don't agree with their racism and that you want to date this girl. If they continue to not accept that it is ok to date someone of a different race than that is their problem and don't bring her home, or at least warn her of what they might say and assure her that you don't share their opinions.
2006-10-06 12:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should follow ur heart and not care what anyone thinks just talk to ur mom and dad about ur feelings for her that this is 2006 i was broken up with in highschool because of a similar situation so keep an open mind
2006-10-06 12:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by sharon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds weird but you should talk to your parents about the way you feel when they tell you,you should stick to your own kind.
2006-10-06 12:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by crybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say go for it... you only live once! i can totally understand your predicament. i am asian and my family also believes you should stick to your race/class, etc. but i was never a believer of the whole idea so i dated who i wanted, whether they were from the same race, class, social standing... i knew they would be wide eyed when i brought home my bf who is black, but i simply told them i see him for who he is inside and not the colour of his skin. i introduced him to the family little by little and they all loved him, even my grandmother who i thought would have been the hardest to please.
once they get to know her, they might like her... good luck kiddo!
2006-10-06 12:05:21 · answer #11 · answered by asian chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋