im so depressed my boyfriend of 5 years just dumped me over 8 months ago.. i cant move on i still love him. but he plays mind games with me and dont answaear his phone when i call. i know he is not seeing any one but we got in to a big fight and he wont call me bACK I THINK HE STILL LOVES ME...WHAT SHOUILD I DO??
2006-10-06 11:46:45 · 18 answers · asked by mary c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should confront him about your feelings and don't play with him get start to the point with him.And yes I also think he still has feelings for you
2006-10-06 11:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by crybaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to give him space.if he doesn't answer the phone,then he 's not ready to talk to you.you have to move on .as hard as it sounds you have to.five years is a long time,and it going to take a while to get over your broken heart,but you have to live your life.spend time with family and/or friends.go places,do positive things.challenge yourself to grow as an individual.who knows maybe after some time has past ,you start to feel better.if your relationship with this guy was meant to be, maybe the two of you can work it out in the future. but for now you have got to start feeling better about yourself.i don't know what the fight was about but i do believe when he is ready to call you he will.i know it's not easy but for now let it go.also, if you are sure that he is not seeing anyone else,reevaluate your relationship with him.maybe it is time for a break even though you still love each other,or maybe it is really over.think about it.how ever it plays out,i wish you both the best .
2006-10-06 12:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by stoneripple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont call cut all ties with him and you will notice you are recovering from your broken heart, but everytime you talk to him, its like picking the scab off again.
One of two things will happen he will either give up and stop trying to call because he didnt want to be with you anyway OR he will go nuts and beg for you back
after five years together you guys are like family or best friends not just ex's and its a HABIT to be next to the other person. If you want him back then stop letting him treat you like a habit and make up his mind.
People also like to have the feeling that someone out there is in love with them, even if they dont feel the same way back, its empowering and he might be doing that to you
Best wishes.
2006-10-06 11:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by InProgress:-) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm Kay,,, here's the thing,
IF he "still loves you" wouldn't he answer the fone?
"Just broke up" 8 MONTHS ago?!?!? And you're still calling him?!?!?!
Watch for the restraining order, girl
Let's put this in perspective, 5 years of relationship, 8 months ago dumping. I apparently felt the need to leave, what was that about? Infidelity? Cooling of emotion? Change of gender orientation?
If he had a reason to leave, let him.
Find a large bottle of tequila, get snot-slinging drunk, remember all of the things he did that made you want to chew nails, and then get him out of your system. Let your friends tell you why he was no good, and LISTEN to them.
Throw away his old shirts, erase his # from the speed dialer, find a hobby. In short, move on.
2006-10-06 12:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by George Curious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard. But you have to stop calling him. Hang out with some friends maybe. Get you mind off of him. It'd probably be best to stop talking to him all together. If he wont' answer your calls I don't think he still loves you. If you keep calling him you just sound desperate. You'll find someone way better :D
2006-10-06 11:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel, but you gotta at least act strong around him, cause if you let him see how hurt you are then he'll take advantage of that. 5 years a long time, but things happen for a reason, just be patient and keep yourself busy. I actually bought a book at Borders called "It's called Breakup because it's broken", good book you should buy it, it'll keep you busy too.
2006-10-06 12:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I split up with my lady of 11 years, my situation was close to yours. I didnt show her the respect that she deserved because I got lazy in our relationship. After she moved out of the house, I realized that without her there was a huge void in my life. So I called her and we have started rebuilding our relationship as friends. The point I'd like to make is if there isn't effort put in from both parties give it up. cause trust me if he loved u, he'd be mending your broken heart.
2006-10-06 11:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by whomafia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't still love you. Give it up and move on. Don't call him. Wear a rubber band on your wrist and everytime you think of him, snap it. You'll be able to break the bad habit you've gotten into. Dont' date yet, til you have yourself under control! Then you'll be ready. Don't call him! Don't wait by the phone.
2006-10-06 11:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First remember that time does not heal anything! You are the only one that can heal you! How can you think of yourself or think that you are not worth more than he is. If he really liked or especially LOVED you he would put YOU first. That is what real love is the realization that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make the other person happy. So, do you love yourself? What are you willing to do for yourself?
2006-10-06 11:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by sci teacher 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well there is alot we dont know ,like why did he dump you .that would help in answering you question fair .But if you love him dont give up ,but maybe you should go to him and talk instead of the phone .but if one of you cheated ,then best to move on like I said its hard when we dont know why he dumped you in the first place .but im sorry you are hurting know the feeling .
2006-10-06 11:54:34 · answer #11 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋