A sweet guy I've know since the fourthgrade has finally reunited with me from ten years.He is 21 and I am 18.We were talking about how we needed roomates which is perfect because we can afford going halvsies on rent. We have fooled around three times and I made it clear the first time that I dont want a boyfriend.This was the second after her verbally expressed to me he is in love with me which I dont know if he really is or not.I personally believe its infactuation.Back to my point, he is doing things such as ordering a puppy for me from across the country as a gift which I am hesitant to except since the situation already.Im 18, part of me should not thinkin of how badly I want that puppy and grow up think as an adult.The other part of me says"hey im young enjoy life take take take lol"He would be the perfect boyfriend but not perfect for me since he is so nice and BORING. I prefer not to be in a relationship with him because garanteed I will cheat.Im not a cheater so yea.HELP ME lo
2006-10-06 11:40:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bad idea.
2006-10-06 11:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it. I had a guy once who bought EVERYTHING for me, thinking he could make me happy, but the truth is, no matter how much he tried to buy my love, he just couldn't give me what I needed in terms of a relationship. Young guys try to do this. I told him time and time again that I just wanted to by his friend and he kept telling me that he understood. HOWEVER, the day came when I found someone I wanted to marry and he took it so hard. I tried to explain to him that we agreed that we would keep our relationship at the friendship level. I felt really bad, but I knew in my heart that I didn't lead him on.
All of this happened and I didn't even live with him. Don't complicate things by moving in with this guy. Save yourself the heartache please. You can always find a roomate somewhere else to go in halvsies with you.
Take care and Good luck
2006-10-06 11:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not a cheater, then how can it be "guaranteed" that you will cheat? That is a bad idea....and it's also a bad idea to have sex with someone you know is hoping for a relationship, when you know that you don't reciprocate the feelings. Set him free, and let him move on to someone that is interested in the relationship that he wants, and deserves, to have.
2006-10-06 11:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save ya time and stress dont move in with tha man if u dint feel right i mean make him do other things for u like buy u babyphat clothes and and shoes and take u places i mean let him spoil u while he can before it's to late and if he cant c where ua coming from then that's on him but if u can try to get a car out of him something u can us in that long run instead of trappin u in a house that u wouldn't feel comfortable in
2006-10-06 11:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right. it would be SO easy to move in with him, have a little fun, accept his gifts and his love........and then dump him and crush him like an ant.
Hmmmm...doesn't sound very nice.
Life is about expectations - his expectation is that with the two of you moving in together, he actually has a chance with you - your expectation is to have someone to share rent with, and not a relationship. If your expectations are not aligned then you shouldn't do it.
RT
2006-10-06 11:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i PERSONALLY THINK IT IS A VERY BAD IDEA, PUT THE SHOE ON THE OTHER FOOT, WOULD YOU WANT HIM TO DO YOU THAT WAY IF HE KNEW YOU DIDNT'WANT TO BE WITH HIM. I WOULD HATE TO THINK SOMEONE I CARED ABOUT EVEN A FRIEND THOUGHT I WAS TO NICE AND BORING. EXPLAIN TO HIM YOU HAVE ALOT OF GROWING UP TO DO AND NEED TIME ALONE . YOU MIGHT CHANGE YOUR MIND SOMEDAY AND MOVING IN WITH HIM WOULD CAUSE YOU TO LOOSE SOMEONE YOU MIGHT WANT BACK AT ANOTHER TIME. DON'T TAKE THE CHANCE.
2006-10-06 11:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. He's going into this with the hopes that you'll eventually change your mind about him. If you truly feel he's not the one for you, then do not move in with him. It's misleading and sending wrong signals.
2006-10-06 11:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by NDUETYME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea, very bad...he would try to make it into something it's not and he'll just get jealous if you bring another guy home and then he'll just resent you and it'll end horribly.
2006-10-06 11:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your firt mistake was to hook up with him . is he a boyfriend or a friend? you need to make that decision and stick with it and talk it over with him if you really do care about him as a freind, before you lose that
2006-10-06 11:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by R & B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, you scrwd yourself when you fooled around with him. He has an emotional attachment that will nevergo away. Don't move in with him. It would be disasterous.
2006-10-06 11:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea
2006-10-06 11:42:00 · answer #11 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋