My daughter is keeping the grandkids from us do we have legal rights?

Question

Problem, I have gone too their house to watched the one for 5 years and the other is 2 months. She said this year they would pay me since they had never paid me for the past 5 years. She told me to figure the price, did called a day care and gave her the price for only 1 and at 1/2 price. So do you still think this is a reason to keep them from us? Plus I clean the house free of charge as well, Sad Moma in Oklahoma

Tnks 4 all in-put hope to answer all. I've watched the one 4 yrs & other is 2 mo's. Daughter doing student teaching. The last yr I watched the one my daughter put her in 1/2 day pre-schl cuz my health 2 level fusion back/neck & shoulder surgery, lot of pain after I leave. 4 yrs I never asked for pay & never would have she is the one who said they wanted to pay for what I have done for them over past yrs they make $16,000 yes $16k owns oil busnss. Daughter asked me to call other daycares for fees, $800 for 2 so I said I would only do 1 @ 1/2 price, she said then she would pay for cleaning & my gas to make up difference, 5 days a wk go too her house bath child get her ready for schl, bkfst/pack lunch, load kids, take school, home, laundry, dishes, beds, bath baby, pick up 1 at school, run errands she asked me to do, pick up groc I see they need for free, back home, out 2x wkly dance/tumbling. Now lets here all input

Sorry not making much lsince, but limited on typing. She thinks that I had over charged her, for the first month it was $450 for cleaning, gas & child care for 2 kids. She pays $500 for the one in the private day-care for just a 1/2 day. If it had been full price it would have been $730 just for the kids this is not for gas or cleaning of her house & remeber she isi the one who said she would pay me & I did not want to do this. I had done this for 4 years and never charged her. Nor would I have ever done it had she not said they wanted to for what all I had done for them in the past. I knew in my heart I should not do it. As for seeing them no I don't want full custody, I just want to see them from time too time. She is a excellant mother.

The dates are conflicting the oldest will be 5 in Jan so I was working on my 5th year and the pay was going to be from Aug-Nov and then she is finished with college. Along with I also help pay over $10,000 toward her college. And yes he has allways been in the oil business and doing really good for their family, they have been married for 5 1/2 yrs.

Yes prices have been rouonded up $730 up too 800

Who eversaid think of the kids in custody courts is right I could not do that too them. So I guess God is my best answer, thank you all for your input!

Answer 1

i think so go to a solicitar

Answer 2

I don't know about the grandparent's rights where you come from. You can do a search on google and look it up. Did this just happen out of the blue? Is she angry about the amount you want to charge? Is is that she can't afford it or maybe does not really want to pay you?

You didn't say if she is "keeping" them from you all together or is she just finding another babysitter. Maybe be a little more specific with your question and you will get better answers.

Answer 3

Every mother loves their children more than anything so if she is keeping them from you she must have a good reason. You need to evaluate the situation and discover what the reason is then work on that . If you try to see them through a court etc you will ruin your relationaship even more. Show her love and respect and give her time and space. Instead of spending time looking for legal rights spend time in therapy etc discovering things that might need worked on.
Also, keep in contact with the children through letters and cards, that way they know you still love them but you will not be invading her rights as a parent.

Answer 4

Depending on the state you can try and sue for visitations but why would you do that to your daughter and your grand kids. I understand you love your grand babies and want time with them but you may have to deal with being an absent grandparent. Send them cards, letters and small gifts if you want. Ask mom if you can call once in while. We don't know the situation but she may mellow in a bit and change her mind. I can guarantee you she won't if you fight for access. They are her kids, not yours. Sorry to be so blunt.

If you feel she is unfit and hurting the children, that is a whole different scenario. Like I said we don't know the situation.

Answer 5

Well I am not to sure about where you live but I know where I live grandparents have rights. My mom's ex-husbands mom had to go for visiting rights for her grandkids. I would either consult a lawyer or just call the Police station some one there will be able to help you.

Answer 6

Even if you do, do you really want to drag your grand children into some kind of battle with their mother? Children usually side with their parents and by trying to force them into visiting you, you will make them feel terribly guilty towards their mum. Unless they're in some kind of danger I think you should just wait until they're old enough to visit you on their own if they want to. If they're in any kind of danger, then you have to inform the police or some kind of childcare service, but even then it's not sure that you'll get them or even get to see them. I can see it's awful not to be able to see your grandchildren though. Good luck.

Answer 7

It depends on the state you are in.Do you know why she is doing this? Can't understand, Grandparents are a truly wonderful gift for their grandchildren!!!! I only wished I had grandparents when I was growing up......only one was living,my grandmother, but in a different country.....Sweden, and we did not have the money to buy her a ticket to come here.
Bless you!!! call your state, and ask them......you have everything to gain and nothing to lose.
Find out first why she is doing this terrible thing.
Good luck.

Answer 8

i dont see how anyone other than the parents would have any rights in who they do and dont want thier kids to be with.
not trying to be rude but just because you want to see them and she doesnt then that is not her problem, these are her children. what? do you want to keep her kids is that what you are saying or just to see them on a semi-often basis?
also your question made no sense with what you wrote in detail about being paid and the fact that she doesnt want you to see them.
please add more detail so i can fully understand this situation

Answer 9

What has happened to cause this problem? Be truthful and you will come up with a better solution to the problem, one that scars no one anymore from now on and makes all family members happy.

Answer 10

I know in the State of Wa grandparents don't have any rights unless taken to court and prove that the parents are unfit.

Answer 11

I am not sure, you might be able to gain visitation, but you would have to take your daughter to court. I have read alot of different things on this site, but it looks pretty controversial. You might want to think about mabey trying to come to an understanding with your daughter.

http://www.expertlaw.com/library/child_custody/grandparents_rights.html