I want to know if its worth starting a relationship with a girl, only to leave her and only see her maybe 1 mo. out of the year for the next 5 years.
2006-10-06 11:26:17 · 19 answers · asked by jackalope_00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why can't you just be friends and in five years see where you are...
The best marriage that last are when you are each other's best friends...just don't get upset if she is dating someone else..
Keep it open.
2006-10-06 11:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly believe that you will see her only once a month for the next 5 years, then no I wouldn't start a serious relationship with a girl. It will be too hard for you two to maintain a relationship if you can't see each other. You both will have your own lives to live without one another and it will be hard to have a real relationship.
Since you are not leaving until June, you could start dating knowing that you will have to say good bye. There are no guarantees in life and who's to say you will still be together in June? You can give it a shot if you really like the girl and talk to her about your fears about everything.
2006-10-06 18:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I am not a girl. I know that you might deem what I have to say as irrelevant because of that. But I do have some information of value for you on this question. I am a US Army soldier. As a soldier, I have been deployed three times in four years. I was in Kosovo, Afghanistan and Iraq. I had no time for anyone, even if they were extremely important in my life. I lived, ate, slept and breathed Army. Beginning a relationship with someone that will most likely be gone for five years is a setup for a let down.
But the bad news doesn't stop there. Unless this guy is a devout, Jesus loving, iron-clad willpowered Christian, you can almost be assured that he will be cheating, or just call the relationship off before he does. The fact is, after being separated from his girl/fiance/wife for so long on deployment, most soldiers cheat. They'll rationalize it all day to themselves, and chances are, you aren't going to find out about it until you test positive from some exotic STD from across the world. Almost all soldiers are guilty of this. I watched all but one of my fellow soldiers cheat on his/her significant other on all of my deployments. Married men were cheating as well as soldiers that only had a girlfriend.
Oh, and the guy that didn't cheat...., he was a devout, Jesus loving, iron-clad willpowered Christian. All the other guys that claimed to be Christian cheated. But they never seemed as devout. Good luck with the gamble.
2006-10-06 18:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Eric T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys were really a match then I would start a relationship, but 9 times out of 10 she'll have played at least once or twice within that 5 year period.
2006-10-06 18:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by lovely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how long we've been in a relationship prior to his departure. If it weren't a long time, like under 6 months, I'd say no. I'd support him though on going to the army, but I don't think I could spend 5 years waiting for someone I've been with for 6 months, unless I absolutely knew he was "the one."
2006-10-06 18:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that's kind of like having a long distance relationship but im in a long distance relationship now and take it from me its hard what eva u guys do dont rush things and if that's tha move tha both of u want to make then do so because tha time you'll spent together will be worth it trust me
so talk about it and make sure u guys r on tha same page
dont worry everything happens for a reason
2006-10-06 18:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its worth it if you want too take the relationship to a serious committed level like marriage later , basically do you feel a serious level of commitment for this relationship. but i feel its worth it because she maybe the one but if its just a fling let it go but if its love and you're ready to take it to the next level go for it don't wait cause you don't want to be like what if ?? you know those late night reflection moments ppl do later on in life
2006-10-06 18:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is worth waiting for I would totally start a relationship with him. I mean it would be super hard while he was gone. but it does work.
2006-10-06 18:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by surfadudett00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not start a relationship with no one that has intention to go to the Army.
2006-10-06 18:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Date him for a few months. but statistics would prove that you will cheat on him when he is gone.
Sorry but that is the facts.
2006-10-06 18:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋