Personally I don't see myself as a pretty girl and I find it hard to believe when I'm told that I'm pretty by my male and female friends. Guys whistle at me when I walk past, once I even had a stranger come up to me and tell me I was beautiful. So, the problem is why have I never been asked out? I know that it's not all about looks and I do think I have a good personality. I admit that I'm a bit shy around guys because I'm just not that confident about myself. Am I sending out bad vibes that keep guys away from me or something. Or could it be that they mistake my shyness for coldness?
2006-10-06 11:24:47 · 21 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the answers you guys are really nice and kind.
2006-10-06 11:46:39 · update #1
man when u find out tell me cuz i got the same problem
2006-10-06 11:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by poe chappa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coco, There probably isn't anything wrong with you. As a guy, I am always quite apprehensive about asking out the really gorgeous looking ladies. I am sure you are beautiful and I would have no problem walking up to you and telling you so. But that is as far as I would go, without some sort of indication from you that you would be interested. Hang in there. The right guy will come along.
2006-10-06 11:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's honestly quite simple. Just be yourself. Start saying to yourself you are beautiful. You need to have the confidence and know that you are you for a reason, and every person is beautiful in their own walk of life. Just because you think you are not, doesn't mean you aren't. Believe in yourself and appreciate the positive comments when they arrive. Yet to be devil's advocate, if someone chooses to see you as an unattractive person, look at it 2 ways: 1) They are not true enough to see your beauty. 2)Don't let them get to you. It is their loss that they cannot see your beauty.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and you are beautiful no matter what, not just on the outside, but on the inside as well!
If you want more advice, feel free to message me sometime!
=)
2006-10-06 11:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys tend to get intimidated. If they see a beautiful girl who's funny, smart, and nice, it's like she's the IT girl, and sometimes they feel as if they can't measure up to you, so they don't even bother. Another thing might be that you don't have anough self-confidence. If you show a fun, relaxed composure and you be yourself and make an effort to get a couple of guy friends (friends first; they'll give you confidence, trust me! Plus, guy-friends are just plain awesome), I'm sure guys will be knocking on your door and trying to get to know you in no time. Good luck!
2006-10-06 11:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned guys like confidence.Maybe the reason you haven't been asked out is because guy's might be to shy to come up to you and most likely it's because they think you look to good for them.It's ok to be a little shy around guy's but don't be to shy,a little shyness is good but to much can ruin a good thing.I think that's amazing that a stranger came up to you and said you were beautiful I mean that's never happened to me.So when people tel you your're beautiful believe it
2006-10-06 11:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by crybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you is nothing. Guys are afraid of pretty girls. Why? They're afraid they won't be able to please them.
Here's what you do. You see a guy you like and you ask him out, to a concert or the movies, the horseraces, a tennis match or something you like and know about. PRETEND he is the funniest, smartest, cutest person on earth. LET HIM KNOW how happy he makes you feel. REDUCE his level of anxiety by keeping up the conversation and telling jokes if things get slow. HOLD HIS HAND, even if you have to grab it. Everything is about HIM. But DON'T BE CLINGY (and TELL HIM to f*ck off if he gets fresh). Invest your SELF in this guy!
...and if he's the right kind of guy you'll get 1,000% back.
2006-10-06 11:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i was single i would have asked you out with out even knowing what you look like.you sound like a nic decent young lady!...so what you should do see try working on that shyness of yours.for example walking down the street a guy looks at you just smile!nothing more or less :-) and that wont show coldness...before you know it someone will ask you out pretty soon!if not send me a message and i might hook you up with a friend of mine lol ;)
good luck :D
2006-10-06 11:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ghass 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about cautious? You are just keeping your guard up, especially with all the crazy people in the world today. When any of us look in the mirror, we see what we want to see. Look at a photo of yourself. Photos show the real person. If you see a pretty person in the photo, then you are indeed pretty.
2006-10-06 11:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your self esteem. If men are whistling at you and telling you that your hot. Then you are hot. Learn to start believing in yourself. Men love a confident woman.
2006-10-07 08:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nothing wrong with u its just that u are shy and im sure u can fix this problem.try to talk with more friends about this,and when a man comes to u dont turn arround and leave stay there and listen to him.maybe they think u are a little bit cold with guys
2006-10-06 11:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a decent girl, a lucky guy will ask you out, and prove you are beautiful inside and out. He will make you feel like you are worth the world. When that happens, you will start to get bolder.
2006-10-06 11:28:26 · answer #11 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋