If he can't commit, you should probably quit! He's not ready and you are. Find someone who can. Good luck!
2006-10-06 11:24:01
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answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5
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It's definitely confusion. He'll be worth the wait if you can wait. But then again who's to say he;s not playing for time. Normally a guylike that will turn out to be a Virgin that is not as far as afraid, but has such a fear of not matching up to previous engagements of yours that he's worried about even trying. All he needs is a poker in the right direction and you'll have yourself a guy that will certainly be loyal, and a great partner, but how to get them to alleviate their fear is a unique case fo every person. Some need it put into their face, some need more careful pursuasion. Your best bet may be to act the innocent virgin yourself in a gradual stage so he feel's he's got nothing to match (if you really like him that is).
2006-10-06 13:30:52
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answered by Bealzebub 4
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well, that guy sounds a lot like me. I will try to explain the best I can. I think ALL women say that ALL guys won't or can't commit to a relationship. Men and women are VERY different. Just designed that way. The way to deal with it best is by spending huge amounts of time with a peson, just to get to know him or him, hear about their lives and problems and whatever. Its like a nice dance to size each other up. Must happen in person to really work. Eye contact and maybe holding hands too. Just to get the feel of it. If he isn't gay, he probably DOES want a girlfriend. Hurt or no hurt, maybe find out what you really have or don't. Worth the risk I think. We get hurt, we try again anyway. We have to.
2006-10-06 11:29:24
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answered by kurticus1024 7
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if you want this guy, back off for a while ,i am talking of at least a month. when your not there he will be able to decide what it is he wants and the only way for him to decide is if your not around, send him a text once in a while to let him know that you are thinking of him if he has been hurt in the past i have found men are alot less forgiving than women and seem to think that all women are the same ie not to be trusted or are going to hurt him its up to you to prove to him that we are not all the same. there are good honest loving women out there good luck i hope it works out for you
2006-10-06 11:46:03
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answered by demmi 2
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he decided he just wanted friendship
he doesnt want a girlfriend
he hasnt the feeling of being in love
What more does he have to say to you?
Back off and give him all the space he needs. If he changes his mind, have him call. IF you're available you can date him then.
Why try to force a guy to be romantic when he's said he's not interested? Hanging around, waiting, confronting him, and making yourself available (just in case!) isn't attractive. A confused, afraid, hurt-in-the-past man isn't your best bet.
2006-10-06 11:27:33
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answered by Anonymous
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Ok, now I want you to go back and read what you wrote.
He doesn't want to be your boyfriend. If he loved you and wanted to be with you, then he would. Plain and simple. It's not because he's been hurt . It's because he's not that into you.
And by him saying he doesn't knwow hat the future holds. That's a pretty lame line. You should back off and find someone else. It's almost like you're tauting him with this whole - I'm going to go find another man bit. Don't just tell him that, actually go out and do it.
He's not confused about anything - he knows what he wants and it's not a relationship.
2006-10-06 11:25:39
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answered by OohLaLa 4
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Well i think its sounds like he has some sort of feelings for you but he is using them to his advantage and keep his ego up and running, and whenever someone else shows an real interest he decides you should stay single and keep using you like a trinket. My advice is stay friends, but dont contact him for a week and let him contact you but keep dating just because he wants to keep you like a toy puts you away but plays with you when he decides. But as I was saying if you dont contact him he will start appreciate you better good luck!
2006-10-06 11:40:42
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answered by Angie Cooper 2
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if the relationship confusing u,than why r u tring to continue that. in this situation u'll feel the relationship a burden nothing else. oneday someone with lots of love will come and u dont have to ask anything to anyone.
2006-10-06 11:34:14
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answered by Anonymous
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What are you in High School???
Adults don't have boyfriends or girlfriends you are just dating and that is it! It does not even matter if you are banging or not.
All there is dating and marriage and that is it...
Aside ... from that why don't you ask him to go steady with you after study hall! I mean he is the coolest dreamboat ever!
Get out of the 1950s and quit bothering this guy with semantics of dating!
2006-10-06 11:27:37
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answered by Anonymous
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YOU KNOW THERE WAS A DOCUMENT RY ON THESE GUYS THAT ARE NOT GAY , BUT THEY DON'T HAVE SEX AT ALL . SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE , ALLOT OF PEOPLE THINK SO BUT IT DOESN'T . THE DOCUMENT RY STATED THESE PEOPLE WOULD MERRY WITH THEIR WIFE'S KNOWING THIS ABOUT THEM AND YET , THEY LOVED EACH OTHER FOR A VERY LONG TIME , ?? MAYBE HE'S LIKE THIS YOU NEVER KNOW . JUST COME OUT AND ASK . CAN'T HURT.???
2006-10-06 11:30:01
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answered by I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU 3
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If you are relaxed and having a good time together, don't let his lack of commitment bug you because he may really care for you. Problem with this kind of guy is they will keep you around until someone else comes along who they think is "better" and leave you friendless and clueless. Date other guys, darlin'.
2006-10-06 11:25:22
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answered by smecky809042003 5
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