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Question

Well there is this guy that likes me named Cody.He says he likes me and is sweet,funny,and nice.But there is one thing I still can not look past is that he is a little overweight and wears glasses.I mean he wrote me a note saying he liked me and all and it was really sweet but I really cant get past his flaws!I mean I really want a boyfreind but I just dont feel he is right.What do you think?Thx in advance.


P.S.I am 12 Please do NOT say I am too young!

Gez am I really shallow?

Answer 1

No, sweetie, they aren't calling you shallow to be mean to you, they're trying to tell you, NOT to be so shallow. Shallow people don't tend to think or feel deeply. By being shallow, you're displaying little intellectual or emotional complexity or value.

What you're doing is being judgmental. Your saying you're never gonna date a guy with glasses and you're never gonna date a guy that is a little overweight. You yourself stated he's sweet, funny and nice, so why should that change how you view him if he was your boyfriend? Sweetie, we all have flaws, we're not all perfect. I'm sure if you sat down and made a list of the things you like about yourself and the things you didn't like about yourself, you'd have some flaws in you. What you need to do is put yourself in his shoes.......what if you were on the other end of this predicament? What if he weren't to date you because you wore glasses? What if he weren't to date you because of your weight issues? That would be mean right? You would feel sad, right? You should like a person for what they're worth. Like him because he's sweet, funny and nice. Besides, if he's 12 too, he hasn't even hit his teen years, things change once you start to hit puberty. Like the saying goes "Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover." You will start to judge the rest of your life, you'll never find the right guy, because you're too busy looking at the flaws he has in about him and in his life. You'll miss and look right past love. I'm not saying you're gonna fall in love when you're 12, but keep him as a good close friend. He may be the one for you in the future. Although I don't agree with a 12 yr. old dating, and you may not be too young, but others will see it that way, just take it easy and slow and don't rush into love and relationships. Believe me, I was 12 yr. old girl once, and it can be difficult, so follow your heart.

Answer 2

your too young..but im still going to say something so you can focus on school and not obsessed about this. You should not like or dislike a person based on his physical apperance. So what id he's a little overweight and wears glasses. Maybe he isnt as aware of his looks because he knows he has more than that. Like you said..he has personality and sweet and funny. what if 2 years from now, he begins wearing contacts and lost his baby fats? would you want to be the girl he's going to tell his friends "shallow?"

Answer 3

I think you should give him a chance. He might not be the best looking guy, but it should be about why is he a sweet guy? what makes him sweet? Don't be judgemental. Be yourself, but don;t let yourself judge, because once you start judging, you will judge the rest of you life. Think about it this way. Lets say you are 25, blonde, 115 lbs, you get pregnant, and then cannot get rid of your excess pregnancy weight, so now you are 140, 145 lbs. People change physically, maybe he'll change, but how would you feel if you went from 115 to 145 lbs and someone said, guess what, your not skinny? you'd be sad and hurt. Just put yourself in his shoes! good luck!

Answer 4

From the sound of your question, you already know that it shouldn't matter what a person looks like.

You don't need me to tell you that what really matters in life is what is on the inside.

There are not so many sweet, funny, nice people in the world, so when you do find one, get to know them and spend as much time with them as you can, because if you don't, you will always regret it, especially if you wasted your opportunity because of something meaningless like they wore glasses.

Answer 5

lol, trust me, I know what you mean! It really depends on what YOU feel. Do you like another guy? Does Cody make you feel happy and secure? Is he fun to be around? As the song goes, "Just listen to your heart!!". Too many girls will go out with someone who likes them just to prove that they can GET a boyfriend; this isn't a good reason. Do what feels right for YOU. If you'd rather be friends with Cody, tell him that; it'd be better for you to say that to him than to end up not liking him and being disgusted with him once he's your boyfriend, which could lead to a nasty breakup. At least if you two are friends, that's what you'll still be: friends. If you truly want to go out with him, I say go for it, girl! Good luck!

Answer 6

You're old enough to start dealing with this issue. Dating has different leaves. You are not old enough for anything other than having a good friend which is what you should be keeping him as until you can make better decisions.

You can consider him as your boyfriend, cause you'll go places with him; spend time with him, do things together. It is a special friend.

Answer 7

I hope Cody is 12 too!!!! If so a woman has alot of power to change a mans behavior like eating habits and working out. If he really loves you he will be open to changing some things in his life to make you happy. Give him a chance!!

Answer 8

If you ask some friends of yours about ya minus parts I'm sure there are many! And 12 is too young!

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Answer 9

A year ago I weighed 282 lbs. Now I weigh 218 lbs. and bench press 325. If he is nice, and has good values, exterior can change.

Answer 10

But you really are. Dating in groups can start at 14...single dating 16...my husband is overweight and he treats me like gold...Personality definitely counts..