I've been at my new job since May. That's where I met him. We've hit it off since day one. We go to lunch together and even take our breaks together. At least twice a month we go out for drinks after work. Last week, we both got a bit drunk and were kissing on each other....but the following Monday, he acted like nothing happened. What's weird is that he asks me to lunch every day since then. He asks me what I'm doing over the weekend. And we chit-chat at least half the day, every day. Is he into me? How do I get him to ask me out on a real date? If it was up to me, I'd do him in our parking structure, right now.... He turns me on. His smile is to die for. Is there such a thing as office romance? Is he into me? How do I ask him out without sounding to desperate?
2006-10-06 10:59:59 · 27 answers · asked by Scooter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both single....Yes, I'm a girl and I'm interested in a fellow co-worker. He's a man. He really seems very interested in me. We talk all day long. We have exchanged cell phone numbers but we've never called each other. We are both 35. I'm a bit old fashion but I guess I could ask him out. What do I say? How should I ask him out? Help me please!!!
2006-10-06 11:11:05 · update #1
Not what you want to hear but,
Don't date people you work with/for.
2006-10-06 11:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
We me and you seperated at birth? I feel like the same thing is happening with me only my guy is married : ( . Its a hard call.. I would say if you really like him and have the guts you should ask him if he wants to go out on a date. If your not brave like me i would just live with being his lunch date ( sad isnt it). Congrats on the drunk kissing, you doing better then me. There is such thing as office romance, I think he is definately into you if he kissed you regardless of whether or not he was a bit tipsy, i mean he knew who you were so obviously he has thought about kissing you while sober at some point. as for what that other guys said about your boss and if it doesnt go well, ive got some news for you if it doesnt go well it could get ugly, but it's all up to you and how you handle the situation If you are friends first which it sounds like you are it will probably go fairly well. Good luck and god speed... Im rooting for you...
2006-10-06 11:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be wondering the same thing. But since you both work together, he might feel as though it would be inappropriate to ask you out on a real date. My suggestion would be to ask him out and straight up. Don't be shy about it either. Obviously he's attracted to you but the whole work issue is involved. If you show him that it doesn't bother you, then maybe it won't bother him. Ask him out for dinner and get dressed up real nice like you are putting in a lot of effort. He'll get the hint that you want to take it to the next level. Good luck.
2006-10-06 11:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rogodogo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you both single?
Dating someone from work is never a good idea. Some companies actually have a policy against it. I would think long and hard before actually dating him. It might cost you your job. But then again, if he's the "one" for you it would be worth it. I suggest just going along as you are now. See where he wants to go. It sounds like it would be a very fun trip. :)
2006-10-06 11:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he married, is he your boss, are you his boss. There's an old say " don't **** were you eat" in other words work place is for work. Just the slight est impression at work will start others in the work place to start talking about your business- so be careful what you want do not bite off more than you can chew. Office romance is not for everyone so think long and hard before you take the plunge.
2006-10-06 11:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by roydono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you maybe coming on a little strong to him? You said you would "do him in the parking garage." I know that was an exaggeration - but maybe he senses something? Sounds like he's perfectly happy being in a public place with other people around the two of you.
If you do ask him out, make it simple, like lunch, and maybe going to a mall, an art museum, something like that - whatever is available around you. Start out with casual dating, and see where it goes.
2006-10-06 11:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big mistake to mix business with pleasure. What if it doesn't turn out? Then you will still have to see each other at work every day. The boss will not like it either and one or both of you could be fired. Back off and forget about it.
2006-10-06 11:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion I think that you should be right up front with him. We're no longer living in the stone age. I think it's fine for a girl to ask a guy out. If you do you'll be laying your cards on the table and find out where you really stand, otherwise things are just going to continue the way they are.
2006-10-06 11:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by spackler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, if you really like this job your asking for disaster. I've hooked up with some people from work and it's always trouble. You will NOT LISTEN EITHER WAY though so just keep playing it cool. Hang out when you can, get him loosened up. Be aggressive though, grab his stuff when you guys are making out. It will be on and he'll eat it up. I love it when a girl isn't afraid to be aggressive.
2006-10-06 11:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by boogatt66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wait for him to ask you out? this is the 21st century. women are allowed to ask guys out. since you chit chat, go to lunch, and out for drinks after work, you must feel comfortable with him. just ask him if he has any plans on a certain date or day and if he says "no" ask if he would like to go out. the worst he can say is "no".
2006-10-06 11:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by bmoline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him enough to find a new job? If yes, then I would suggest that you find a backup job and then talk to him.
If it is materializing then let him know that you are changing jobs so that you two can be together or atleast continue to date.
All the best.
2006-10-06 11:05:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋