I am confused in my relationship, where I am not sure if my affection to her is due to love or sympathy.
2006-10-06 10:47:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe you are hooked by the inability to differentiate the difference between love and sympathy or compassion for your relationship partners. You find yourself feeling sorry for your relationship partners and the warm feelings which this generates makes you think that you are in love with them. The bigger the problems your relationship partners have, the bigger the "love" seems to you. Because the problems can get bigger and more complex, they succeed in hooking you to lower your boundaries so that you begin to give more and more of yourself to your "pitiable" relationship partners out of the "love" you feel. The rational message needed to establish healthy boundaries from this hook is: "It is OK to have sympathy and compassion for my relationship partners, but that does not mean that I have to sacrifice my life to "save" or "rescue" my partners. Sympathy and compassion are emotions I know well and I will work hard to differentiate them from what love is. When I feel sympathy and compassion for my relationship partners, I will remind myself that it is not the same as loving them. The ability to feel sympathy and compassion for another human being is a nice quality of mine and I will be sure to use it in a healthy and non-emotionally hooked way in the future in my relationships."
2006-10-09 19:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by veerabhadrasarma m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking? You already know the answer. If it was love, you would never confuse it with sympathy. The question you should be asking is "Why should you feel sympathy towards your girlfriend?" Could it be her poor choice of partner?
2006-10-06 13:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lady E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think love will make you feel truly Blessed, Lucky, Happy, Safe and Secure... u will WANT to do all things right and good for that person
i think sympathy will make you pity, feel sorry for, bite your tongue, stop you from saying things, make you do things u don't want to do, walk on eggshells, watch what u do, and try to help that person...
funny how they are quite similar when u think about it... but i think after awhile sympathy can fade, even though the person appreciates it. but if someone appreciates your love, it can continue to grow~~~!
2006-10-06 10:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you a small example
Love is the one existing b/w parents & children, girl & boy, wife & husband....
Sympathy is the one if you see any poor boy or girl,(or) handicapped people we will help them it is Sympathy
2006-10-06 12:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by pradeep_p5143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sympathy makes you want to help someone.
Love makes you want to seek out unity with someone else such that their problems and pains become yours. Love also makes you want to change yourself, to become a better person in the eyes of the one you love.
just my opinion.
2006-10-06 11:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Nikhil O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love gives and help sincerely sympathy only shows outwardly
2006-10-07 15:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by ashwanikseth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE IS BETWEEN TWO TWO PEOPLE WHEN IT WILL BREAK THE THIRD ONE COMES TO CONSOLE YOU THAT IS CALLED SYMPATHY.
2006-10-07 19:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With Love And Sympathy
2017-02-28 10:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is when u care but not feel bad for the person.
sympathy is when u feel bad there is just mental affection not from the heart.
2006-10-07 03:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from the person for few days.if u miss him/her.if u constantly remember the moments spents with the person..if u imagine the person in all the things u love ...then its love ..
2006-10-08 22:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by amithaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋