i have a friend who is male. i have known him for 11 years. we dated for about a year and decided to be friends after that. we have feelings for each other and have always had.
my dilemma is he really likes me. he has not had a successful relationship with any exes besides me. since i have known him. it has always been me on the side as a friend, he one he can run to.
my question is am i making it too easy for him by always being there for him even theough we are just friends. we care about each other greatly, and have for as long as i remember.
i dont want to distance myself from him because i would miss him too much.
confused
2006-10-06 10:29:30 · 10 answers · asked by edcltu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you and him still have unresolved feelings for each other than why not see what will become of a real committed relationship and stop playing with each others feelings. Real love is hard to come by this days. Remember the old saying that if you love someone set them free and if they come back to you they were meant to be yours. A true relationship should start off as a friendship anyway. You should be a lover, companion, and friend in a relationship that is meant to last. But remember be true to yourself first about what you want and feel. If you don't want the relationship tell him the truth and as a real friend he should be able to handle that and still be friends with you through it all. Good Luck
2006-10-06 10:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by jozetta W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not still *******. You know some people deny the "friendship" and are still *******. If you really have gotten pass that stage and are a true friend than be there for him. He needs a good friend like you to suggest things he can do when the right person really comes along.
2006-10-06 10:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are comfortable with him and he doesn't constantly try to move it in to a more serious, or physical relationship. I have managed to be friends with a man who was a boyfriend/lover for years...but on the other hand, another guy simply couldn't get it through his head that I didn't want to have a "relationship" (sex) with him, he simply wouldn't leave me alone about it. We were good friends, similar philosophy of life and sense of humor, etc. but he wore me out pestering me about the other stuff. I had to tell him goodbye
2006-10-06 10:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have sex with him- are you feeling used- just sit down have a heart to heart conversation. Let him now how you feel and what you expect, see if he is non committal then you will have your answer to get on with the rest of your life. Maybe he wants the same thing but could afraid of losing you he says what's on his mind- good luck
2006-10-06 10:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by roydono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really think about what your friendship with him really is. Meaning do you still have unresolved feelings for each other. If not stay friends and he will find someone when the time is right.
2006-10-06 10:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Bettie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would continue as you are. Apparently he hasn't found the right woman yet. When he does, you'll be his friend through that as well. :) Good true friends are too hard to come by to give up easily.
2006-10-06 10:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 03:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not influencing his relationships..you are there as a friend, a comfort..I say continue to be that and you will both be happy for it.
2006-10-06 10:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're friends to me.
2006-10-06 10:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation and i just had to let go because feeling are there and it just didnt feel right i dont know just let go baby let go
2006-10-06 10:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋