I left my mom's house because she was very overbearing even though I am 21 and I was raised in an abusive environment for as long as I can remember. She wants me to come back home because she is worried about how she will present herself around other people and my dad is harassing her because I moved out. Since I am a Christian I am worried that moving out was a sinful act because it was against their will. Is this something they'll eventually get used to?
2006-10-06 10:26:15 · 3 answers · asked by jmrocket05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand that you are a Christian and I would like to help. It is not a sin because you moved out against your parents wishes. Your mother and father need to realize that you are 21 years old and you need your own space.Your mother doesn't need to worry about "presenting herself" around other people. All she needs to do is tell people that you needed to spread your wings. Also, if you were in an abusive environment and that is all you can remember, you did good by getting out of the house. You might want to think about some type of counseling also. You might not think you need it, but not only will it help you deal with your abusive past, but it will also give you someone to talk to now about how you are feeling.Your parents will eventually get used to the fact that their child has grown up and moved out of the nest, just give them some more time. And if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to email me. davidsgirl4282001@yahoo.com. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-06 10:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasnot sinful. It says honor thy mother and father. When a girls mother tells her to do sexual favors for drugs, and the girl refuses, does that mean she sinned. Also in the bible it says Honor thy mother and father IN GOD. She will get used to it once she sees that you are NOT moving back in. Once they realize this that stuff will stop and they will move on.
Everything they are doing is consistent with being abusive, and this is how they are trying to maintain control. It is called 'coersive persuasion'. That is the modern day term for brainwashing. Look up coersive persuasion and check out the methods of it. I bet you will find alot of stuff they are doing that fit that description. And if you know that is what they are doing, you cna better keep yourself from being influenced by it.
2006-10-06 17:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah... you're 21. Have you ever heard of "God helps those who help themselves." You are never going to be your own person if you don't make your own decisions. Good Luck.
2006-10-06 17:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by hightechredneck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋