I am not what you would call a player, but i am rather succesful when on a night out with my mates. The problem is, that i dont attempt to ''pull'' when out.
I have been bought up to be a gentleman and to treat women with a high degree of respect, my Father is never home, and i have really lived with my two sisters and mother for the last 20 years of my life.
WHY CANT I FIND A WOMAN WHO WANTS A GENTLEMAN??
Prob silly but any help will help
2006-10-06 10:01:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not that women like bad men - just that bad men make them feel good..at least at first ofcourse.. the usual patter being to flatter them, take them out, pay them lots of attention etc
Good guys often appear indifferent which is obviously interpreted as being uninterested..
Personally I have never gone home with a bloke from a pub - so I disagree that good guys miss out.. Just begin to talk more to the girls you like.. it will work in the end.
Especially since the idiot men always show their true colours in the end and any girl worth owt will kick him to the kerb.
Don't give up just put in more effort.
Best of luck - and lovely to know that there are more gentlemen out there and not just my wonderful partner.
2006-10-06 10:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is created by the modern culture where you live. When men and women are completely on their own to find friends of the opposite sex. And women mostly wait passively for some guy to make friends with them. Then it's the aggressive guys who have the advantage in getting women.
Agressive guys often don't take 'no' for an answer. They don't care about rejection. And through sheer persistence they often get the woman they want.
But nice and proper guys can't handle rejection well. After a few rejections, they begin to feel that their advances towards women are unwelcome. And out of respect for women, they begin to stay away from them.
People in many traditional cultures have recognized this problem a long time ago. And they have solved it by having either arranged or assisted marriages.
In these cultures, nice guys of good character have all the advantage when it comes to getting the girl. And obnoxious, aggressive guys are at a big disadvantage.
If you are not popular with women in your country, then I suggest that you look for a woman from another culture outside your country. There are many cultures where women would like nothing better than to marry a nice man who always behaves like a gentleman.
Many asian women would love to have a relationship with a man like you. And you can easily find and contact them through various matchmaking internet sites. Or you can travel on your own and meet local women in countries such as Thailand, Cambodia, Philippines, Vietnam, China, South Korea and a few other places.
2006-10-06 11:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female here.......Not silly at all.....my daughter has the same problem - says she can't meet a 'gentleman'. There aren't too many of you left out there unfortunately. Women seem to like the guys who treat them badly - can't understand why. Anyway all the best - hopefully you will find that special someone.
2006-10-06 10:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like jerks, it's just a proven fact. Don't worry though, us gentlemen will take over the world some day!... Well, not really. But the point is, the gentlemen is more likely to get the right girl for the long run, whereas the jerk is going to get a lot of action but end up with nothing to show for it.
2006-10-06 10:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Viking Chicken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont imagine you even favor to confront him about it, in simple terms say that its over and if he asks why then in simple terms say that you understand that he might want to be prepared to cheat on you if he hasnt already. You dont truly favor to furnish him an evidence yet when he insists then in simple terms tell him the reality, that your instincts were telling you some thing so that you observed them and that the different female on the internet develop into you and that you presently understand for particular that he's not the right guy for you because he obviously cant keep it in his pants. It doesnt count number if he says that it develop into incorrect of you to trick him as this may in simple terms be anger that he has been discovered out!
2016-12-04 08:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean mate... Unfortunately women find gentlemen to predictable and ultimately boring... Sad but true...
Women go for men that keep them on their toes and put up with loads of sh*t from them... It amazes me why they do this!
You can still be a gentleman but do things for a women that surprises her so she doesn't get bored and go for a complete knob... Hope that helps... Good luck matey :)
2006-10-06 10:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ladies like a gentleman - particularly older women who have known some jerks perhaps but they also like a 'man' - that's open to interpretation but I think you have some idea when you mention your upbringing which is perhaps lacking a little for masculine presence.
2006-10-06 12:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess deep down some girls like the 'savage' kinda of boy. But i assure you by time u'll meet with a girl who appreciates your gentle ways.
(doesnt hurt to be a bit rough at times.... just dnt over do it!)
Hope u helped in some way
Take care & Good luck!
2006-10-06 10:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Fisherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true. The good guys get nothing. I've been having the same problem my whole life. I guess women just like a**holes.
2006-10-06 10:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
joey the nice guy never wins u should know by now! women say they just want a nice guy and why arent there any out there but when they get 1 they dont want him, they want some dork who is fractionally better lookin!
2006-10-06 10:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by adriboff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋