i have been with this girl for a year.. i moved to LA from OC to be with her.. she is great, but i feel i need to be on my own now. How do i break up with her. (keep in mind that she is a single mother) im not the dad- but we live together now
2006-10-06 09:48:36 · 11 answers · asked by Efrain I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, ask yourself if you are simply afraid to commit or if there is true legitmate reasons to break up. Make a list of deal breakers and of most haves in a relationship. Then see if she matches one of those lists. Then you will know if you should break up or not. And, if you decide to break up, just be honest and keep it short. No break up is easy and it sucks for both people.
2006-10-06 09:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man about it. Don't cheat on her, please. Many people find just breaking it off difficult, so they try to do things to make the person break up with them. Tell her the truth: It's not working out, I think it's best to go our separate ways. She'll respect you more. But you need to tell her why. And be cordial about it, don't be an asshole. It's bad enought getting dumped and then you're being an asshole on top of that. And tell her it's not her it's you! You're the one that feels that the relationship can't continue with you feeling this way and that you would rather tell her leave than to cheat. Whatever you do just be honest and tell her how you feel and why you can't continue like this. But make sure she's at least cool on the bills for the month to give her sometime to find a roomate or something.
2006-10-06 09:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say,"I think it's been great,but I don't think it's working out 4 me.I think u're a great person,and u're really sweet,but I just feel as if we should go our seperate ways,but don't take this wrong-u're sweet,and u're a really fun person 2 hang out.And I'd still like 2 be friends.
Some advice:Wait until she reacts 2 the fact that u're breaking up with her be4 u tell her that u still wanna be friends.
2006-10-06 09:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you feel that she needs to be on her own now. That is the opposite of the truth so it should really screw her life up. Or you could be a man about it and suck it up and stop being so selfish and be a good father to her children.
2006-10-06 09:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sing Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have had a great time with her, and she is a great girl, but you would like to have some time on your own. Dont be aggressive, just tell her nicely that you do not want to have a girlf friend at the moment, but you can still be friends with her.
2006-10-06 09:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by xoxarielle14xox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be truthful. Tell her how you feel, if you don't want to be with her your making things worse by not telling her. The longer you wait, the more its going to hurt her. And her having a kid shouldn't matter, especially since your not the dad.
2006-10-06 09:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by lil_critter33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something to make her wanna break up with you or just tell her that you need time to be on your own. if she really loves you she'll know what's best for you.
2006-10-06 09:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by cali grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with her but do it in a gentle loving way.
Hopefully she understand, make sure that she is not the problem .
2006-10-06 09:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by GentleCraig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. u moved al that way to b with a gal and now u want to cut her loose. i smell a rat here
2006-10-06 09:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by lregan7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooo wow!well breaking up is hard but do it if you truly want to.
2006-10-06 09:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by ~Bubblii~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋