Okay. my two year old daughter is very sweet most of the time. The exception is in the morning. She wakes up in a good mood and seems fine, but as soon as she realizes it is time to get ready to leave the house she flips. She screams and cries, kicks and rolls. How do I change her attitude towards getting ready? Sometimes I have to wait until she is in her car seat so I can safely put her shoes on.
2006-10-06 09:47:39 · 14 answers · asked by jc 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My daughter was also very strong willed at two. You have to make clear that you are in charge, and that she has to stop it and get ready. You should do this clearly and firmly, and don't let up. She can't be allowed to "win." Never show fear, they can smell fear. ;-)
Seriously, as an example, my daughter HATED her carseat. I would have to hold her down, kicking and screaming, while my wife buckled her in. This went on for about two weeks. Then one day she realized she wasn't going to get her way, and she just stopped.
If you lose this, you will probably have problems from now on. If you win, you will both have a much easier time of it in the long run, as she will understand her place in the family. Children need a sense of security from which they can then grow. Now is the time to give her that sense of security, by being firm and in charge. Later, as she grows in her abilities, you can allow her more freedom.
2006-10-06 10:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by terraform_mars 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people called a two year old the "Terrible Two" but I think they are just "Terrific Two." Maybe your daughter have some problem or fear of the outside world. Try to ask her question in a calm voice and tell her that you understand why she is acting this way and you'll be there to support her all the way through until she feel comfortable doing so herself.
I have a two year old cousin who doesn't want to go outside, especially when he is really into Blue's Clue. I try to talk some sense out of him and it wasn't difficult for him to get ready the next time. You just need to communicate with your child eventhough they are not able to communicate back to you but try to read their nonverbal behavior and see what is it that they want.
2006-10-06 09:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spank your kids. It can be imitated by them on other kids and that's very bad. What I do is use my index finger, like I'm pointing at something, push or poke my boys in the chest. It's only a little painful and gets the "point" across without actually hitting them.
Children's fingers are not strong enough to do this effectively on other children, so when they try it, it doesn't work very well.
Children need to know that they are not "equal" to their parents, they're children and they should obey you.
2006-10-06 10:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake her up a bit earlier and let her adjust to the process of waking up. Try to get her ready without making an issue out of it. For example, put her socks on while you read her a story.
2006-10-06 09:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Liesl W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her hugs and kisses treat her with love..when shes not doing what she do go to her room and than polietly explain why not to scream and cry before getting ready...dont spank her like some users have told you shes very lil and innocent if you will spank her she gonna freak out...you can also make a rewarding system like tell her that if you not gonna scream or cry you will get a cookie or a sticker but i think explaining her is the best way...
2006-10-06 16:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by cool k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tap her little behind you should have stop that from the beginning when she first started acting that way. I never had that problem with my daughter when she was two years old. You are the parent not her.
2006-10-06 10:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by busthead213 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe it or not it will pass. Be proud of such an expresive daughter. Oh and don't feed the fit by showing stress or lack of patience. Your daughter feels comfortable enough to trust you with her expressions. Don't suppress that trust. -Dad of 5
2006-10-06 09:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by RM706 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its called the terrrible twos depending on the child it can probably last up 2 well 4 maybe or so i have heard
2006-10-06 09:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A SWITCH Will Do The Trick
2006-10-06 09:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Send her to boarding school. Let someone else deal with her.
2006-10-06 09:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋