son with AD/HD?

Question

My son 11years 11 months was recently diagnosed with AD/HD. Something I kind of suspected for sometime. He has been on the patch for about 2 weeks now at 15mg. We have seen no change in behavior. He has been in counseling for over a year now (stress desperation issues), with again it not seeming to be doing any good. In fact in most ways his behavior and attitude have gone way down hill. Both his mom and I are quickly becoming frazzled. He has not been diagnosed with any learning disabilities at this time. He is bright and very capable but he is failing half is classes none the less. His teachers are willing to do all they can for him, so we have good cooperation at school. We have been trying to balance rewards for doing and exceeding what is expected but also consciences for not doing what is expected. Any ideas, suggestions, things to try, a new mixed drink recipe (LOL) would be great. Being a parent the toughest job in the world. contact me at [e-mail]

Answer 1

Soccer, and lots of it.

Answer 2

I have a son that is autistic and when he was in counseling his behavior was much worse. It only pointed out to him that he was different and It would take him 5 days to settle down again, so it was like walking on egg shells all the time with him. I suggest that you take him out of counseling and see what happens. You can always go back if needed.
Also, it take a long time to get the right med levels to make a difference and some medications do the opposite of what they are suppose to do. My son took a year before there were some noticeable differences and that was 38 years ago.
I don't know where you had the testing done, but my son was diagnosed at a children's hospital. It could be that he has some medical problems too.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Man, your last comment said it all. The toughest, but the best overall!
I just wanted to comment on how your son was diagnosed. There are times symptoms aren't what they seem. The only way to get a proper diagnosis is through a neurologist and other specialists where they do brain scans and chemical analysis to rule in/rule out various things. If a doctor just went through a checklist with you and your child, that is not enough for a diagnosis. You don't say what meds he is on - is it Ritalin?
It is wonderful that the school is being very co-operative, and it seems that you and your wife and ready and willing to do anything. It seems as though you might just have a regular 11 year old, who is just going through a lot of "tweenies" stuff - which can start at eight or nine years old. I hope you will consider doing more research and do more things like behaviour modification, natural consequences, and such things - and even parenting classes for the two of you. What is important is to have structure and consistency - and that means hard work for you as parents, and from his teachers. Wish you lots of luck.

Answer 4

You know I don't think those medications work at all my friend use to take them and before he use to be this hyper kid full of energy and just made everyone laugh and then his doctor told him he needed to take this medication and he didn't want to he is 16 years old but his mother made him and then when I see him he was sooo very quite and hardly talk I would tell him whats wrong he said I'm on my medication in a very sad mood and he use to tell me he did not like taking them because he didn't feel like his self at all but his mother would make him. Well 5 years later he is now 21 and he did stop taking them and he is just this outspoken person he is totally fine he still has a little hyperness in him but hey thats how he was made to be he enjoys his self he is not hurting anyone he also just recently had a baby who is 3 months and got married he is living a normal life just with a bit more energy then anyone else.
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Answer 5

Forgive me if I'm wrong. But I don't believe in everything that scientist come up with. Before you know it, it will be called ADHCDHFJGJ. When I was growing up, our parents spent all the time in the world with us. That meant every conversation, family walks, good family times and even real discipline when needed. Nowadays, parents put work first and TV is teaching our children more and more on how to defy their parents. Not only that but in many homes prayer is a thing of the past. ADHD, ha ,not in my house! There is an instinct that God has given every parent and its in you, find it.

Answer 6

Get him involved in something that is physical. He is just growing up and adjusting to his new intellectual capacities--which is kind of a depressing thing, especially for smart kids (ironically enough). If he does a sport or some kind of work that requires physical expenditure, he can cope better with the mental uncertainties he is feeling at the moment. Sounds like a pretty normal kid to me--just a really smart one.

Answer 7

my friends son of 14 is adhd, she has recently taken him off all medication and is sticking to a very healthy organic diet.ie,no processed foods and nothing with additives. it means an awful lot of cooking fresh foods free from insecticides and reading all labels on foods but there has been a great improvement in his behavior.

Answer 8

As I've answered on another question.

get him on Omega5 capsules. Perservere for at least 3 months (it can take this long for the improvement) 3 capsules a day.

Worked (and is still working) for my daughter.

Good luck

Answer 9

well my husband has ad/hd..he is on adderall..so is his brother who is 17 and his sister who is 12...that works really well on them..try talking to your doctor about switching medicine...if the medicine he is on is not strong enough..you will not see a difference in him..and things may continue to get worse...and another thing..it's not his fault..i've read some of these comments and no whipping him will not make it better..so please just sit with the doctor and see about either upping his dosage or changing the medicine..

Answer 10

TRY BEATING HIM WITH A BELT IT WORKED ON MY ad/hd