She constantly wants to change clothes and can't decide what to wear...
2006-10-06 09:40:35 · 15 answers · asked by RoyP 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
Make her lay out her clothes the night before and decide on an outfit then. Then, do not allow her to change any before leaving. Making a decision the night before should alleviate the "stress" of having to pick an outfit that morning. Just a thought, but you might try to find out why she's so obsessed with what she wears and what she looks like at 4.
2006-10-06 09:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by obuprincess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have her pick out the clothes the night before....and if it takes too long then maybe use a timer and make it a game. then in the morning adhere to what she chose strictly and above all BE CONSISTENT !! every time you make exceptions makes it that much harder. IF she fusses about it at first that's OK..you are helping her learn that in life sometimes you don't get things the way you want. it's a good lesson and better learned at 4 then 40. IF you speak kindly but firmly you do not have to feel guilty. I'm a teacher and there are too many spoiled children out there who will have a sad adulthood when they learn about reality.
2006-10-07 09:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by same here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her decide and lay out a set of clothes the night before. My daughter used to do this all the time in the mornings... dragging out the clothing changes until she was nearly late for school. Once we started laying out the clothes (she had to be able to choose them) the night before, the problem stopped. Have her lay out all parts- panties, socks, pants, shirt, shoes- so that she won't have to go to the closet for anything. That gives her no reason to go looking for a "better" outfit for the day. Giving her the power to decide on the outfit is important- if at first she has a hard time doing this because of the overwhelming number of clothes (more than 3 outfits), take out two you deem appropriate for the weather and let her choose from those two. As she gets more practice in checking the weather (which you can do as part of your ritual at night- check weather on TV or internet for your area) and matching clothing for the weather, she will be able to select from greater and greater amounts of clothing. Another idea to limit selection is to put all the clothing for one season (say, fall) on the bottom rack of the closet, and all the clothing for the opposite weather on the top, out of easy reach. That way, she is looking at the clothing needed, and it will be easier to select from.
2006-10-06 19:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Layout her clothes the night before and offer insentives if she gets dressed within a certain time limit. Maybe a sticker per day on a chart or you can just use your calander, and if she gets a certain number of stickers she gets a prize (candy, movie, book, toy... ect.) Explain to her in a way she understands it so she willingly will change faster.
2006-10-06 14:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a now 3year old boy who has always loved to change clothes all day. I've alleviated this problem by laying out clothes already for him and expressly telling him that he will not change into something else. He's tried to fight me on this by crying, yelling, screaming... But I've stood my ground and now he's got the message that mommy won't fall for his tricks anymore. Also, if he insisted on wearing something else after we'd decided, I would just tell him that either he wears what I took out or he can go out in his nighty clothes. That worked very well, because he dreads going anywhere in his pjs. The key here is to give them choice but limit it. Just be calm and speak camly while explaining even when your child is throwing a fit. Because, frustration and anxiety beget frustration and anxiety.
2006-10-06 17:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by sayitlikeitis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same issue with my daughter and sometimes picking clothes out the night before did not work. I ended up giving her several choices or combos to choose from (they all mixed and matched) and she chose from there. I put them at the foot of the bed for her to select.
2006-10-07 10:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by ACC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her to pick out the outfit the night before and stick to it! You can't rush a four year old. I know that for a fact. She IS only four so I don't think it shoud be her choice alone. Gently try to guide her towards an outfit and like i said before, stick to it. It will help her to be more decisive later on. Good luck! I get my 4 yr. old granddaugther ready for pre school two days a week and it "ain't" no picnic! :o)
2006-10-06 10:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could set a timer and if she is dressed before the timer goes off, she gets a sticker on a chart. The chart can be used for a variety of behaviors. Then when she gets a set amount of stickers, she could get some type of reward. I use this type of system a lot in my classroom and it is pretty effective.
2006-10-06 13:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by eore_42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay out her clothes the night before and then everything is ready for the morning.
2006-10-07 15:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by brinsdon2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan the night before, or paint on the clothes xD
2006-10-07 11:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by 2 days after my B day :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋