Me and my boyfriend just broke up and we were about to get back together but he thought i was in doubt so he told me to sleep on it. He's very controlling, but that's a good thing, because that turns me on. He doesn't like me hugging or talking to boys that he doesn't know. Today we were at a school pep rally and he was with his people and i was with my homegirl. This boy came behind me while me and my friend was walking and gave me a hug. I knew this boy so I just let him. We were walking while he was hugging me from behind. Then after like 30 seconds I thought of my man and told him to stop hugging me. I whispered to my homegirl that i hope he didn't see that. Then I turned my head and saw him looking right at me. Then he walked right by me and started hugging on another girl and kept lookin back to make sure I saw him. I'm afraid I lost him again. Was I wrong to let another boy hug on me and try to get away with it? This guy is perfect for me but I feel like I don't deserve him.
2006-10-06 09:37:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trying to control someone is emotional abuse which a lot of times turns to physical I was in a 4 year relationship on a man that hit me, put me down, and tried to control me. and i wouldnt wish my experience on anyone because i stuck around for so long because he was always so sorry but it would always happen again. If they do it once they will do it again i am walking, living proof. Whose to say if i would have stayed any longer I would even be here for my children. I am not trying to nag at you I just dont want anyone to waste away their life on a man. I am 18 and feel every bit of 40, you dont want to feel that way. I wish you the best. And remember men come a dime a dozen and you will find someone who will treat you the way the should and the way you deserve. Enjoy your life while you can and you are stil young when I had the chance all I did was worry about what and who he was doing and if i could change the past I would. i wish you the best and please keep in my mind what i said because you dont want to feel the way i do emotionally and physically.
2006-10-06 09:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by lilmomma91206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A controlling man is perfect for you? What are you like 12. A controlling man can easily turn into an abusive man. Get a damn grip. Its completely harmless to have a friend hug you and here you are worrying about being seen hugging a friend. You dont seem sane or reasonable to be in a relationship so I hope he does dump you. Its sad to say but your better off!!!
2006-10-06 16:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally it's best to keep away from seemingly casual hugs. I don't think a lot of the guy, though, so it's probably for the best. "Homegirl??" Are you in some kind of gang or something?
2006-10-06 16:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got domestice violence in your future babe. Do whatever you can to get rid of him (gently) and then figure out why you like to be controlled and get that fixed ASAP before you go near another guy.
The life you save may be your own.
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2006-10-06 16:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. It sounds to me that your boyfriend is a little immature and unsure of himself. Try to talk to him and tell him that you only want him and that you told the other guy to stop. Explain to him that you done nothing wrong and you only want to be with him.
2006-10-06 16:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by amanda725_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much too late ,from the sounds of it he hugged the other girl to get a response from you seeing as it was right in front of you
2006-10-06 16:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by shamoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you check under the couch cushions or in the garage? Where was the last place you used him?
2006-10-06 16:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is the one for you ,hang on to him.as in this cruel world you cant find another nice guy easily
2006-10-06 16:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by tahriri2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both seem to be playing games just let it be over and meet new people.
2006-10-06 16:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by thealternativemind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the other way around he doesn't deserve you. He will come around so just him some time. Good Luck.
2006-10-06 16:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nicolette G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋