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2006-10-06 09:36:14 · 4 answers · asked by Myra G 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
21. And yes completely can take care of themselves. If you think it is a bad idea can you explain why.
2006-10-06 09:44:44 · update #1
I think its a bad idea. I'd only want my child living with a guy if it was her spouse. If they want the sex and commitment, they should be willing to marry first. I know its old fashioned of me, but I got preggy my first time. My kids' dad is a wonderful man that I later married and still live happily married with. But I'd hate for my kids to be in that situation. It was horrible emotionally, going through pregnancy and aving all that doubt and worry about our relationship. Until we exchanged vows, I was scared he might back out. I'd love for all my kids to not start a family until they were happily married. I'd love to know that my future son or daughter-in-law respected themselves and their partner enough to wait until marriage. I'd not want my kids to have STD's or HIV from treating sex like a game. I want their first marriage to be their only one. So shacking up just doesn't go with those dreams. My kids deserve a person that will love and respect them, not ask them to be a live-in booty call.
2006-10-06 09:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, I would think... My dad absolutely hates my boyfriend and is totally against it. My boyfriend's mom absolutely loves me and thinks I'm the best thing since sliced bread and that we're perfect for eachother.. (but she always wanted a daughter and I'm one of the few people that have been able to work through the boyfriends ADHD issues)
We support ourselves
We live by ourselves
We are saving to buy a house
We are saving to get married (my dad won't pay for it, as stated, he hates my boyfriend)
I would think it really depends on the individual maturity level and whether or not they're capable of supporting themselves.
To the chick above, I was adopted and my adoptive parents had been married for 10 years. They divorced when I was 12. Marriage is no gaurentee. It's a peice of paper and a word that means nothing anymore.
2006-10-06 09:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are happy that we live together and are unmarried. +We both have quite a few goals we have set and want to accomplish them before we get married. I want to become a registered nurse. I won't get married until I am finished with school even though we have 2 children together. He wants to have a very nice wedding and we can't afford to do that until I finish school. My mom is happy because she had me young and was never able to reach her goals. She rushed into marriage with my dad because she didn't want her parents to be ashamed of her. They lasted 16 years and were unhappy the whole time. Both my parents love my fiance because of how he treats me. He is a great father and man. I was on bed-rest during both my pregnancies and was unable to work. He waited on me hand and foot. He also worked as many hours at work as they would give him because I was unable to work. He also worked many hours to help me with my first year of college.
2006-10-06 11:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are they, can they support themselves?
2006-10-06 09:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋