2006-10-06 09:35:20 · 21 answers · asked by I-C-U 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
absolutely! i tell my son in certain situations, it is ok to stick up for himself. but within reason, and he has to take into consideration where he is at. he needs an educations more than he needs to stand up for himself with violence.
2006-10-06 09:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Blonda 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think so. I am a mom of 4 boys and I have discussed with all of them under circumstances it is "okay" to fight back against a bully. They know when to walk away and when to stand up for themnselves. My oldest is almost 20 and the youngest 13. So far it has worked for all of them. One thing you can do as a parent though is to communicate with the bullys parents or the school and let them know what is happening. It could be a great help for your child.
2006-10-06 16:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by SissyK 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When I was a kid my parents told me to fight back if threatened or hit by another kid. They did hit me first, but they were bigger than me so I grabbed for the nearest available object which happened to be a very large rock.
The results were very, very bad. On paper they had it coming, in reality my parents gave me bad advice that ended up hurting them more than me.
My college roomate fought back against bullies once when he was in highschool and ended up with his jaw wired shut for two months.
Here's the thing. When kids fight they either arent serious enough about it, in which case they end up getting beat up, or they are too serious about it, in which case they cause serious, permanent, damage to the other person. I'd say no to fighting back. I'd tell kids to extract themselves from the situation and seek help from authority figures.
2006-10-06 16:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They should be taught self defense, self controll and never physically fight back unless in a boxing ring with referees.
In any fight there are winners and losers, one day your child, if taught that its OK to fight back would come home not OK....
Show the child how kewl it is to just walk away...
2006-10-06 16:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. I think children should learn self defense (well, all people should) so they aren't victimized by bullies. Also, I think they should be taught that physical fighting should only be a last resort. If they can't diffuse the situation without throwing blows, then they need to be able to take care of themselves when the fists start flying.
2006-10-06 16:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
definitely. there is a big difference between letting someone run all over another and taking whatever they want and standing up to protect ones property and physical being. there was a story of the minister giving a sermon in a saloon in the west and a bully hit him. the minister said JESUS turned the other cheek and I will too. the bully hit him a second time the minister JESUS didn't say what to do after that picked the bully up and threw him out of the saloon.
2006-10-06 16:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
theres a verse in the bible where these kids pick on elisha, and elisha calls a curse from the lord down and 2 bears come out and maul the 42 children. sounds like fighting back is ok?
2006-10-06 16:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think so. My parents raised me to defend myself. That if someone hits me then I better stand up for myself and hit them back. However, if I was ever the one to start the fight then I was in deep trouble.
2006-10-06 16:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by amanda725_2000 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, sometimes.
You should read Wild at Heart. John Eldredge gave a great explanation of why he told one of his sons to fight back.
2006-10-06 16:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by ryanjamesm 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Definitely. No one should just take what a bully dishes out. I taught my child "don't start it... but if it gets started (by someone else) then you need to finish it for them"
2006-10-06 16:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kithy 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋