Is jealousy bad?

Question

well my boyfriend he gets jealous when another guy says I'm cute, pretty or anything like that or calls me "baby" (I tend to call alot of people "sweetie", "hunni", "darlin'" etc so I don't get the big deal?)
Is it a sign he doesn't trust me or what?
he admits to getting jealous easily and apoligises for it, I try to fix whatever it is he gets jealous of, but I don't know if its because he doesn't trust me with being just friends with other guys or what?
any input?

Answer 1

thats good it means he likes u a lot and dont want u to leave him and dont want dem other guys hittin on u

Answer 2

Jealousy is at different levels, and being jealous isn't bad to a certain extent. Men are jealous period. But some men can be overly jealous and that is when it can get bad. And you know when it gets bad when you can't even go anywhere and he accuses you of messing around with other man... you'll know, believe me. But give him a taste of his own medicine. If you see him in a girl's face or a girl in his... act jealous even if you aren't!! Then he might see how it feels, and he may stop it. A lil' jealousy is cute, but it can get out of hand quickly so be careful. I had a relationship with a guy that was abusive and he was jealous of my homegirls, and he didn't want me to be around no one else except him, and that was a red flag. Because I guess he thought that my friends would get me to cheat on him. And you can't "fix" his jealous rage. Another thing to keep in mind is people will accuse you of things because they are doing it. I don't know your entire situation, but always keep stuff like that on the back burner... Good luck to you.

Answer 3

From your description, he is definitely the jealous type. However, his jealousy may be more of a reflection on him and his insecurities than yours. The real question is whether you can put up with such jealousy, because it is not likely to get better. You might consider starting a conversation wherein you gently ask him where he thinks this jealousy of his comes from. If it is, as I suspect, his problem based on his past history with other women, then you will need to firmly set him straight that (1) whoever messed him up in the past is not you and you don't want to pay for that woman's sins for the rest of your relationship, and (2) that you are not interested in anybody else but you have an outgoing, flirtatious personality to which he is simply going have to grow accustomed or he will make himself mental and, ultimately, tear you two apart.

Answer 4

Jealousy is natural. The fact that he's trying not to let it come between you two is good, but still think about it from his side. How would you feel if he called many other people baby, sweety, hunni and if other girls called him that. I don't think it's that he doesn't trust you, I think it's because pet names are usually reserved for special people, so maybe he doesn't feel as special if things get really friendly like that with other guys.

Best of luck to you =)

Answer 5

Yeah it is , it can be a sign( BIG sign) of a control freak. They say they are jealous but get upset at You and YOU have to fix it? WHY? You did nothing wrong. I would be extremely wary of any long term relationship with a person like this.
My sis had a b/f like that in high school, she married him and he was an abuser that accused her of everything under the sun if someone even looked at her wrong. It took about 8 yrs, but this happens alot according to statistics.

It isn't you and there isn't anything YOU can do to "fix it", the dude has MAJOR insecurity issues and only he can fix that. Most men dont have problems with their gals talking to other dudes. And when we get a whistle , wink etc...mine looks at the dude and says yep and she is all mine LOL

Answer 6

No. Jealousy isn't the worst sin. right that's what Jesus says: "each and every sin or blasphemy could be forgiven - different than blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, that could in no way be forgiven". (Matthew 12:31) Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is named an unforgivable sin. the reason that's unforgivable is with the help of the fact it displays a settled, hardhearted innovations-set of defiant hostility in direction of God. a individual who has that innovations-set will in no way come to God for forgiveness - so this style of sin is unforgivable. in case you're worried approximately despite in case you have committed the unforgivable sin, that's surprisingly no longer likely. touching directly to jealousy: "you're nonetheless worldly. For on account that there is jealousy and quarrelling between you, are you no longer worldly? Are you no longer performing like mere human beings?" (a million Corinthians 3:3) JEALOUSLY: a million a: illiberal of rivalry or unfaithfulness b: disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness. 2: detrimental in direction of a rival or one believed to savour an benefit. 3: vigilant in guarding a possession. listed right here are the dictionary definitions. i've got self belief the only thank you to evade jealousy or cope with jealous human beings is to alter into unworldly (thoroughly supply up cloth possessions and all 'human nature' procedures).

Answer 7

Avoid jealous people at all costs. It is a sure sign that they are insecure and that they are going to use negative means to control you.

Absolutely nothing good will come of being with someone like this.

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Answer 8

Some may think that jealousy may be OK even flattering but unjustified jealousy is caused by his insecurity or can be a control issue. It's something you both need to talk about and solve together.

Answer 9

well it depends is he gettting to out of control with it? Or is it just a quick serge of the jealousy monster? Becuase if you guys get into big fights about it you might want to think about what the relationship means to you? But good luck hope i help ya

Answer 10

try not to call anyone else sweet words livemy love, hunny etc. It makes him feel like he's not special. IF other guys tell you you're cute- he should be proud he has YOU and not anyone else. Jealousy is bad but- it can ruin your relationship with him or anyoen else. Quick tip- stop calling people sweet names that gives him a good reason to think you can trun your back on him someday and be unfaithful to him.

Answer 11

Jealousy is a natural human emotion. Your bf gets jealous because he treasures your company...it is his way of telling other guys 'she's with me' and letting you know that he wouldn't approve of you fooling around (not that you would).

What you describe falls within the 'normal' limits of jealousy...and it seems that your bf cares enough about you to apologize for a natural reaction that he can't really help.

Jealousy CAN be taken to far....anytime that it leads to violence or heated arguments would be an example...OJ would be an extreme example.

You are not doing anything wrong and neither is your bf....just be sure you talk to him about your feelings and listen to what he has to say about his.