I want a child.....?

Question

I would love some advise from non-professional (stupid) sources. I am a male doctor nearly 40 years old. I was very poor all my life until about 35 when i finaly became a physician. So poor I didnt have food all the time, no car, nearly homeless. I never got a girl because even though I am nice and average looking, my life was full of hardship. Anyhow, I have tried so hard and canot find any girl to date me. I am getting older, and most women my age are married, or have kids and are divorced (and have been "fixed"), or do not want any more children. You can forget me ever getting a younger girl (who wants an old fart).

I want a biological child of my own. No adoption, or some other mans child.

Does anyone have some advise for me? What would you do in my situation, or women what can you tell me?

Answer 1

Okay I'm going to try to sum this up nicely...

First of all... (And I have proof)
My fiance is 42 and I am 22, there is a 20 year difference there and everyone wonders how I could relate?

Well I have been divorced after a 3 year marriage and he was divorced from a 11 year marriage. We were both going though housing and job problems. He had no job but he did side work for people. I had a job where I was also living at the time because I lost my house due to my ex-husband.

I want children and he wants children. We were both cheated on badly and want to have good relationship and communication. That is basically were we got our foundation and we built on it. We went from staying in a hotel together all the time to a two bedroom apt., new mustang, and I am pregnant with our first child. We are getting married next year when we could invite both family and friends.

Point of my story is that we didn't have much, and we were both looking for someone to have a happy family with, it just took both of us to find each other and it wasn't easy. You WILL find what you want and I hope you do.

Hope this lifts your spirits...

Answer 2

You sound a lot like myself. Only I am not a doctor, I don't live the high life. I had 2 children when I was younger and like most women, got my tubes tied. I had a tubal reversal at age 41. Yes I wanted another child. Now I am approaching the age of 45, Doc's tell me that It is nearly impossible without assistance, fertility treatments, which I can't afford. On your search for an older women just be prepared for medical bills, fertility treatments are not the worst part. The worst part is wondering after you've tried for 6 cycles will it ever happen. Stay positive and good luck finding the right one. You seem very nice and don't listen to negativity from these people, they have not walked in your shoes.

Answer 3

It shouldn't be hard to find someone whose like yourself successful, never been married and have no children. There are plenty of women nearly 40 or over 40 whose in the same boat you are in. I have a female friend whose 35 and a lawyer and is desperately searching for Mr. Right. Anyway, I suggest you search for women whose in late 20's early 30's who share the same goals you have. Try online dating eharmony (I heard is good) or match.com. You can even try creating a myspace.com page to meet people. Are there any single group meetings for professional people in your area? If so, try that. I wish you well in your search for Ms.Right.

Answer 4

Try an older woman. They can still have babies as a doctor you must know that is true.
Even if they are divorced and have children of their own they know what mistakes they made in their first marriage and will avoid the same mistakes in the future. Also, their children should be mostly grown up enough to be out of the house shortly if they have not already left the house.
My boyfriend is 5 years younger than I am now, so it can work.

Answer 5

I feel really bad but that is just the way the world works. I would go to match.com or someplace like that.. But DO NOT tell people that you are a Dr. because you dont want the wrong women either. Just be careful not to jump into anything too quick either. You sound interesting from what you wrote just try some dating online and I am sure you ll meet plenty of women. Plus you get to scope out what their intrests are and kids consensus

Answer 6

I understand what you asserting besides the indisputable fact that, once you get a toddler from beginning you get this attachment and there is not any way which you will no longer love that youngster such as you very own. My mom had 4 of her organic and organic little ones and he or she observed 2 extra little ones and that i felt that the observed little ones have been given extra suitable scientific care. no longer that i replaced into jeolous my mom replaced into so into those childen additionally she has a million female from beginning and the different female replaced into 3 years old. ok so i replaced right into slightly jeolous besides the indisputable fact that it basically comes organic because you as a newborn prefer to maintain getting solid scientific care. perhaps it may be you 5 365 days old which could be jeolous, it relies upon on the type you handle the hot newborn.

Answer 7

You can always get yourself a seragant mother. She'd use your sperm, but then you being a dr., you should already know that!!

I'm older, had 4 kids, and would love to have more, but ex hubby insisted I be fixed! He should of been! lol

Well, maybe if you don't go looking for a lady really really young, there is, I'm sure plenty of women that wouldn't mind giving you a child!

Being that your a DR. now, I don't think you'd have to worry any longer to be living the life style as people like me.
Congrats on your success and years of study!!

Answer 8

Well doc, it's unusual giving advice to you guys, but whatever you decide to do, make sure you marry the woman who conceives your child before the child is born. Otherwise, doc the kid will never forgive your nor its mother for labeling him/her a bastard.
By the way, try going to a singles dance or two. . . there are many young and maturing women who would just love to meet you, marry you, and have your baby. Don't give up!

Answer 9

I am very sorry you are put in this situation, well I work in a hospital and you know there are plenty of women there Right? why don't you explore the floors and maybe talk to a few women and get to know them as friends first and see where it goes who knows someone in the hospital might just be your future wife and kids mother. You just need to explore go out invite employees to have drinks at the bar and just feel free good about your life and think positive your happy you have food, a good job and a home and money.
Everything will work out don't worry be happy.

Answer 10

I'm in the same position. I waited til my business was successful andnow it seems like it is too late to start a family.

This might sound lame, but check the internet for women from the Philippines. They are gorgeous and most of them are in the nursing profession (The Philippines is the largest suppliers of nurses in the world).

A woman from the Philippines will have been where you have
been and understand the value in savings. The other fine quality is that they realy knowhow to take care of their men, After work they will cook, clean, take care of you and raise the kids.

Last but least most women from the Philippines are Christians.

Good luck