For the past year i attended nursing school 40hr per week and worked 30hr per week. Sometimes her sleeping in our bed was the only "time" i got to see her. I have another baby coming in Dec. and don't want her to think he is the reason she has to leave our room.
2006-10-06 09:27:01 · 11 answers · asked by erin 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's unfortunate that you waited until you had a baby coming to ask this of your daughter. Hopefully she won't associate this new negative change with the arrival of the new baby, or you've had it. And it's gonna be bad. You'll have to let her scream it out a couple of weeks, and it's going to be torture for you, but you have to do it. Make it as pleasant as you can with a new bed, but be diligent. If you cave in and let her into your bed, you've taken 2 steps back, because now she knows you can be manipulated AND she got into your bed!
Good luck!
2006-10-06 13:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get a two year old to understand you is if you talk in a way that two year olds can understand. Just simply tell her that "Mommy needs to sleep in her bed, and you need to sleep in your own bed". I read in my parenting book (I had the same problem with my 3 year old) that the first few night are rough. At first, you may have to lock your door, your toddler can scream and cry all she wants. Just as long as you do not open the door. I put in ear plugs to block out the noise, and after about a week or so, it eventually stops. What you are teaching your daughter is that bad behaviour will be ignored, then she will learn that she might as well stop. I know it's hard in the start, but you need your sleep. Parenting is all about challenges, but it's a good thing to have. Good luck to you and your new born baby this December!
2006-10-06 09:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest letting her remodel her room if it is still in nursery type decor. You don't have to do anything big. Maybe a new bed set and a few pictures for the wall. Oh and a special night light or lamp. Just make a bigi deal out of how you are going to help her make her room soooo special for her to sleep in. She will be more likey to want to sleep in there if there is something specail about it to her. I would try to keep from discussing anything about the baby with her in reference to sleeping arangements. make this change about her being special. Something about the work "special" works wonders with girls.
2006-10-06 09:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start her sleeping in her own bed now then. Start a routine for putting her to bed. Something like reading her a story before bed, in her bed that is. Make sure she has no excuse to sleep with you or to get out of bed. Have her go "potty" before she goes to sleep and if needed, give her a small drink before hand also.
A good trick for me was to give my children one of "my" stuffed animals to sleep with. If you have some, start sleeping with them when she is in your bed, then tell her if she moves to her own bed, she can take it with her. Give her incentive to sleep in her own bed. Maybe buy her a new night light (they make this really cool light with all of the Disney Princesses on it that spin around like a disco ball---found it at Walmart for $12). If all else fails, just keep putting her back into her own bed, without saying a word to her, until she gets it that she is no longer allowed to sleep with you. And when the new baby comes home, do not put the baby in your room, put him in his room to show her that even the new baby is not allowed to sleep with Mommy and Daddy.
2006-10-10 02:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by dienna c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem and this is how I solved it.
I put her directly into a full size bed and put her to bed at night. When she got up and came to my bed,I took her back to her bed and laid down with her there. Pretty soon, she would sleep through the night in her own bed.
Plus, she felt really "big"because she had such a big bed!!
2006-10-06 09:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by basesoftball2510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to draw a line and stick to it. She may be unhappy about the new sleeping arrangement, but she will get used to the idea, if you do not waiver on your position that she is no longer sleeping with you because she is a big girl now.
2006-10-06 09:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by retorik75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to start now before it gets harder later. Buy a night light and the leave closet light on if she has one. Let her know that you are awake while she falls asleep. If she cries read her a story. Let her know what a big girl she is now and the next morning tell her how proud you are of her that she slept by herself. It will be hard but believe me, it's a good thing.
2006-10-06 09:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by girlie99 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it is a burden but let her sleep with you for a while. Later on you will be glad you did. It will seem like a minor price to pay.
2006-10-06 09:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better start now moving her to her own room. It is going to be tough but stick to your guns and don't back down.
2006-10-10 05:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by funrdhdpeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you dont co-sleep with the new baby or you will have the same problem with him in a couple years.
2006-10-06 15:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋