can I convince him he isn't we talk to him and encourage him but he still puts himself down he is 8 and in the second grade, he has problems keeping up with his class and he gets angry at me because of this, I have had it with his attitude toward school and myself, and NO he does not get away with everything
2006-10-06 09:20:41 · 14 answers · asked by Shadow Kat 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
The two most important things a parent can say to their child is I love you and I am proud of you. Look for your child's strengths and have him use them often. Praise him and point out how good he is at it.
To build self esteem:
write him letters telling him how much you care for him and how proud you are of the great things that he is doing.
Pick easy books for him to read and commend him on a good job.
If he likes space men, cars, animals, use those items to help him learn math....reading etc.
Spend lots of time with him..........love him.............let him know how valued he is for the special person that he is becoming
Be sure and emphasize that everyone is good atsomething and everyone feels bad at times.
We all have low and high self esteem....it just depends on what we are doing at the time. If we are good at something, we need to remember how that feels for the times when we are not so confident.
2006-10-06 14:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's always behind in school I'm sure that's a huge part of the problem. Has he been tested for a learning disability? You could try taking him to one of those Sylvan Learning Centers or something similar or get a tutor or just try more at home. Talking with the teacher about this would be helpful as well, they might have some insight for you.
I'm not saying he IS stupid, but you know you telling him he's not and then if he can't do the work other kids his age are doing, he's not exactly going to believe you. It's great to be supportive though, so it sounds like you are doing a good job of that.
Good luck, I'm sure that is really hard.
2006-10-06 16:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you've had so many answers, and lot of them are good.
My son does well in school, but we have to pull teeth to get him to do homework. It sounds like we're very much in the same boat. How do we deal with the attitude? I don't think this is a problem my parents had to deal with (I'm 42). Maybe I was too much of a goody -goody! I certainly didn't think so at the time
The attitude thing is a tough one. Maybe your son's teacher can give you some help. I know my son does better at school than at home. I think it's because they know that we'll love them no matter what!!! And at school, well, it's just the teacher. And to please the teacher, they need to pay attention.
Talk with your son's teacher. Sort this out together.
2006-10-06 22:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by vax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn his self criticism around into a positive. He doesn't have trouble, he just takes his time - that kinda thing. Make him start saying positive things about himself or his thought processes will never change. Always make sure you give him plenty of positive feedback (like you probably do). Find something he DOES enjoy about school and focus on that.
Talk to his teacher about the issue. She may be able to do things in the classroom to help, also.
2006-10-06 16:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the teacher maybe he can go into a special class. i was.positive re enforcement. maybe play a trick of some sort like ask hI'm to look something up for you then praise him see your smart you did it im so proud good boy.i would start at the school b/c that's where it all begins. maybe hes being picked on maybe the teacher isn't as supportive as she should be. got to show him that learning is fun. do they have counselors in his school.
2006-10-06 16:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start praising him for the things he's doing right/well more often.
Also, sit down with him and try and figure out why he's having such a hard time. Maybe he's having difficulty reading, or needs glasses.
Talk with him and his teacher and try and get him the help he needs.
Good luck.
2006-10-06 16:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes 100 positive comments to build up a child and 1 to tear him down. Have you thought about a tutor to help him
2006-10-07 07:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try getting him a tutor...all children learn at different times/ rates and speeds. If he can not keep up in class, maybe try and see if he needs special classes. My niece has trouble in class and well, my daughter excels we tried to get my daughter to help my niece...that didn't work out very well, as my niece cried to her mom...saying that she was dumber than her cousin and it didn't make her feel very good.
2006-10-06 16:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just does not want to hear it from you as a parent. Put him into contact with another adult who he might trust to explain to him that he is not stupid, or introduce him to other kinds of learning experiences--outside of school.
2006-10-06 16:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by retorik75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to list off things that he is good at. this might be hard for him but start it off for him. it could be anything like playing with his friends to helping you grocery shop. anything! show him that he is smart by going to a childrens museum or science museum. if he can have fun and learn maybe he will be more confident.
2006-10-06 16:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by flutterflie04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋