I really like this guy and started emailing him and eventually got him to ask me out. I was estatic. During our first date, I felt a lot of chemistry and we started making out and I had sex with him on the first date which I normally don't do. But a few days passed and he never called back and whenever I call to ask him why I don't hear from him, he seems so cold and he doesn't want to talk. Does anyone know what went wrong?
2006-10-06 09:11:21 · 18 answers · asked by josie_c4t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you weren't so attracted to this man then perhaps sex on a first date would have been fine, if you were in it for pleasuring yourself, I am presuming here that you are an adult. Sex for a woman can be a very different affair as opposed to the man. Women are on the whole much more emotional about sex, were as men tend to look on it as a need. Men also love the thrill of the chase, and the more of a thrill it is to pursue you the more it enthralls them. Unfortunately it seems you gave a bit too much this time, but don't beat yourself up about it. Learn from it and move on, after all that's what life is about, learning from one's mistakes. Believe me, when you do meet somebody who is right for you, you will wonder what you ever shed a tear on this lad for in the first place. Hope you find love soon.
2006-10-06 09:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You slept with him on the first date. If you are going to give it away like that he is going to take it. Especially if he doesn't have to earn it. You have made it clear to him that you are an easy lay.
Watch, in a few days or a week, he is going to come back, say he is sorry, give you all the attention you want, make you think everything is ok and then shtoink and run again. Know why? Because you let him. You showed him all your cards and he had nothing to lose.
Sorry sweetheart, you are getting played. That is why you shouldn't chase boys, you need to learn the art of getting them to chase you.
2006-10-06 16:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you gave it up and now he is done with you. That should tell you right there that he never really cared, he only wanted to get you in bed. So he probably feels like he got what he wanted so why else would he need to talk to you.
And it sucks with us girl that we get even more feeling for a guy after we give ourselves to them. They just think OK been there done that time to move on to the next.
I hope you learned something from all of this. And know that once you give someone that part of you, you can never get it back. So make sure the next one deserves it. S**T make em work for it. :) Good luck sweety and I am sorry guys are pigs like that.
2006-10-06 16:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by HappyMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has some issues with his mother that are causing him to have a fear of attachment to another female. The best thing that you can do to help him is tell him that the sex was great and you would like to sleep with him again and maybe offer to bring a friend along, be sure to tell him that nothing is expected of him as far as a relationship and you just want to be his sex slave and serve him only.
OR
He tapped it, didnt like it too much and moved on.
2006-10-06 16:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was looking for sex and since he got it, he is done. If he wanted more you would know by now. Make the next guy wait at least 5 dates, you will know if he likes you by then.
2006-10-06 16:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by stoneybrook231 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its that kind of huy hwo doens't like a girl when she end in hes bad from the first met, this is the answer.u can't do much now but u shouldn't had sex with him.first u have to know what he wants and than have a sexual relationship.im sorry if im telling u the truth but ive been in this situation before and i know how u feel
2006-10-06 16:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slept with him on the first date. That's what went wrong. And you got him to ask you out ? That doesn't sound good either. Remember, guys dont respect girls that they can get easily.
2006-10-06 16:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had sex with him on the first night.. He got what he wanted and doesnt want it anymore. Sorry...chalk it up as a loss, and keep moving, you live and you learn.
2006-10-06 16:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see you gave him what he wanted and now he doesnt want you.
He already had a girlfriend and they had broken up and now they are back together.
He just wanted a one night stand.
Whatever it was, nothing went wrong. Hes just a jerk. not your fault.
2006-10-06 16:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no.....he was just another player who used you, then he got tired of you and moved on.
if he's not answering your calls....then there's not much you can do except take the facts. and if you ever see him around, tell him how much he's hurt you and that you think he's a complete jerk.
2006-10-06 16:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋