i am currently in iraq, with the army. my bf back home is caring for our three year old daughter. i have met two very wonderful guys here. i never want to hurt anyone, but i am seriously falling for one of the ones here in iraq. the major problem is the one i am falling for is from a foriegn country (the republic of georgia). he says he loves me. i dont know what to think..... especially since my bf in the states get very cruel with his words when he talks to me. the other guy here is also georgian, but i only want his friendship and he keeps telling me he is in love with me. i dont want to hurt him, but i may have to.....
2006-10-06 09:05:56 · 12 answers · asked by dindonelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have not had sex with the two georgians and i dont plan to... so how am i a ho?
2006-10-06 09:24:46 · update #1
concentrate on what you're doing over there. when you get back,
consider yourself and your daughter first. there will be problems with whoever you chose. it might be best to separate from all that you mentioned, but not your little girl of course.
2006-10-06 09:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could do the romantic, daring thing and go with the guy you're falling for OR you could do the realistic thing of breaking it off with all of these guys. Either man from Georgia...I mean come on...seriously...you've met a man from another country during a wartime situation. Never works in the end. The verbally abusive BF...you can tell him to go where the sun don't shine if he treats you like crap again.
2006-10-06 09:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tyr_74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW your in a triangle aren't you?
Are you sure these two guys there really care for you, or just want in your fatigues? IS the bf back home the father of your daughter? IF he is, then he is doing right by himself to be careing for his own daughter. IF he's not the father, and you don't think you really want him any more, then you should start seeking relitives of taking over her care, so you can move on with a decent man over there!
My prayers are for all of you in Iraq!
2006-10-06 09:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, what are you doing in iraq? i doubt you're in the army?
you have a 3 yr old daughter. don't run off on her just because you've met some guy in a foreign country! stay with your bf, and forget about this republic of georgia guy. and the other one too...don't cheat on your bf...do these two even know you have a bf and kid back home? tell them so, and be firm about it.
2006-10-06 09:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the military , ( Air Force ) , and it is a common problem in the military to fall for someone because of the stress . The other problem is these two are foriegners and they find military women attractive , any women !.. no insult intended.. in most cases it is a shallow lust for a new object , sort of speak... stay the friend and remind yourself that you have a boyfriend back home and a lovely daughter who wants to see her mommy... avoid lustful inclinations...
2006-10-06 09:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what life is going to be like when you return to the U.S. after your tour of duty. Are you going to carry on a relationship with these men from Georgia? What about your daughter and what's best for her? If you really want to be with this new guy, you at least owe it to your boyfriend to tell him up front. I admire what you're doing for the country. I just hope you don't do something, in the fog of war, that you will regret later.
2006-10-06 09:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Eric H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sure talk about yourself and what you want a lot. Why don't you put your daughter's needs ahead of your own. She didn't ask to have you as a mother but she is counting on you to be there for her. NOT part time as you live with this other guy but in an intact family. Think of someone besides yourself and honor your commitment.
2006-10-06 09:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Here Today 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to spare the guy's feelings, because he is going to become a freaky jason stalker and you don't want that. You have a boyfriend and I'm pretty sure that you told your new friend that you have one so he is crazy to say that he loves you when he really does not know you. You need to leave him alone because he will become a problem.
2006-10-06 09:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you shack up and then experience real life. When you and bf#1 started shacking up, you should have asked where is the commitment? But no one did I guess. Now you've installed bf#2 and shacking up with him too.
If you had shacked up WITH COMMITMENT (marriage), your choices would be much easier.
Frankly I think you;re all screwed (PUN intended).
2006-10-06 09:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you get back and see how things are on the home front before you make a desicion like that. It could haunt you for the rest of your life if you make a mistake.
2006-10-06 09:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋